Withholding information

[dublinbabe]

Can my fathers partner refuse to let me know if he goes to hospital or if he dies? She says she can. She is only after his money. Is there any way I can make her tell me. She has contact with my uncles, but won't tell me there addresses, and it's no use asking my father - he doesn't know where he is half the time. This woman has refused to let his carer and Social Services in because they were keeping me informed. Please help.

[lady-anita]

this happend to me in april, my father died, she wouldnt let us get involved in the funeral, but we wasnt allowed to be told anything cos she was his next of kin, ended up in a big fight at the funeral, not very nice but neither was the way we were treated by her

[lady-anita]

u need to contact social services for more info

[bednobs]

socal servics wont give you more info, especially if they are not involved any more. I really can't see how you could "make" her tell you though

[Annlinda]

If she is not married to your father then she has no right to make any decision that concerns your father, if you and/or your siblings want to get social services involved she can't refuse.

[Ethel]

Annlinda - that is not true at all. Anybody can be named as next of kin - there does not have to be a blood relationship, and if she is 'next of kin' on his medical records, that is good enough.

[Annlinda]

Yes you can name anyone as next of kin but a blood relative has final say reference funeral etc if no will is left. This woman would not inherit.

[lady-anita]

she was his next of kin, we was not allowed to arrange his funeral, his money was in his safe where they lived, she took the lot, we had no rights in the matter cos she was his next of kin, the funeral place told us to ask her when funeral was etc, there was nothing we could do because he did not leave a will, although he said he had done one before he died, but theres no sign of one now, and her daughter has a brand new car, paid for with my dads savings, the famly were weirdos, the daughter just came out of prison for stabbing someone, the son had sex change and the father is the daughters kids father, and they all turned up at the funeral, even her ex who has been done for indecent sex acts with a minor in a public toilet, no wonder there was a punch up, lol

[lady-anita]

well im glad i got that off my chest lol, sorry to make a joke of it but its all true and very annoying, it was like a sceen from shameless lol,

[dublinbabe]

They are not married, and she says he has written a will. My father was in hospital a while back, and I only found out afterwards; so she has probably told the hospital she is next of kin. How do I find this out. I do know when my father is lucid that he regards me as his next of kin.

[Ethel]

How long have they been living together?

Has she moved in to his house, or do they own the home jointly, or is it rented?

[luxury]

Has your father been forced to sign a new Will?

If you are tricked into signing, the Will is not valid. For instance, if you sign a piece of paper without knowing what it says.

When you sign your Will you must be capable of understanding what it says and the effect it has. This test is sometimes called being of "sound mind", but that is not really quite the same thing. In fact, someone who is not of "sound mind" can make a valid Will so long as their unsoundness does not prevent them understanding the Will. However, if there are any doubts as to mental capacity it is highly advisable to get a doctor's certification of understanding

I'd get a solicitors advice if I was you.

Do you not know your uncles names?

Surely you can trace them through the voting register?

Are you worried about your fathers health care? is he in danger of being abused? if you think he is and social services have been banned then I'd be suspicious.

http://networks.csip.org.uk/dignityincare/Topi cs/Browse/ToolkitForAction/ToolkitForActionGen eral/ReportingAbuse/?parent=3634&child=3584

[dublinbabe]

They have been together for approx 14 years. He wanted to get out of the relationship for a while. He had his own flat but she manipulated him into giving it up, when he started getting unsteady on his feet. He originally wanted to move into sheltered accommodation. Now he has Parkinsons disease, epilepsy and can barely walk. When Social Services were involved, they told me a neighbour of hers had told them she'd stolen a large amount of money from him. Although no money was stolen, I don't understand why Social Services did not contact this neighbour, even if it was only to find out how they knew my father had this kind of money. I think it's because of the money that this woman wants me out of the way.

[bednobs]

does your father have a lpa in place? if so, you may find you have less than no rights

[dublinbabe]

Hi Bedknobs

What is an IPA?

[terambulan]

an lpa is......Lasting Power of Attorney......and can be signed on behalf of a person by practitioner.

It is given to patients next of kin/relation/guardian.

[bednobs]

Lpa = lasting power of attourney. There are 2 types, 1 for financial matters and one for health and welfare matters. They both give the named person absolute authority to make decsions on the other persons behalf if they are unable to do so themselves. If, for example, your father had an LPA registered and in place for health and welfare matters and he "dosent know where he is" then she has the absolute legal right to decide to refuse social services, and make any healthcare decisions on his behalf. quite often people will get them done at the same time as a will. they can either just sit there waiting to be registered, or they can be registered with the office of public guardian and then used. It is the same thing for financial matters, ut a different document. If he has one, you have no chance because she can make decisions as if she were him