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thanks for the replies at least it puts my heart at rest
Yes i do pay maintainance �215 per month I see him fairly often, I cant afford to go to court and get regular access and my ex is incredibly tempremental about access, As I pay maintainance through the csa she wont let him stay over at my house once a week as apprently her money could go down by 1/7th, its a very delicate situation and also very frustrating for me and my son but the good thing is is that he is only getting older so in a couple of years he will be able to come to mine when he chooses and not be held to ransom like he is at the moment by his mother.
Thanks again