big problem

[clemantine]

my son who is 14 has been hanging out with a girl i thought i was just being a mom when i felt i really didn,t< like this girl she seemed unballenced she had aboyfriend who is a few years older and i could see she was using my son to make him jelous but he wouldn,t lsten anyway she told my son on the msn that she could no longer speak to him as her boyfriend did not like it my son excepted this and gave her a wide birth at school anyway it has now come to light that about a month ago my son her and a male friend of hers went to my house on a saturday afternoon to hang out this was about noon i got home at 3.30 .she says that they went upstairs to chill my son came downstairs to check his msn and get them drinks he said he was downstairs for about 10 20 mins in that time she said this other lad raped her . my son said ther was no evidence of any thing and they were fine all though fo a short while he was not there they were all in the living room when i got home at 3.30 laughing and joking and then went round to my mothers to play the x box all three of them my son says he never suspected anything different about the situation and then around 7.30 this girl and lad left my mothers house and went home now she is saying that the police want to talk to him and naturaly my son is upset im ashamed to say that on knowing this girl for a while i do not belive this at all she has told my so that she is going to kill her self on numerous occasions even befor all of this my son has tried to be a real friend he is soft and has been taken in by her i feel so sorry that she is so troubled but what do ido now

[stonekicker]

nothing - certainly not for her as she is not your responsibility. it sounds like she has a raging personality disorder, so is a drama queen, will always be getting herself into and vulnerable positions and will cry 'anything' (including rape) to get attention. advise your lad to avoid her like the plague but obviously cooperate with the police and be prepared for some kind of backlash from her if she does not want to cut ties with your son. you need to press the point home to your son that she is trouble and will only drag him further into mischeif if given the opportunity in the future. failing that, put your foot down and take control - he is only 14 and what you say should go in your house!!!

[after8]

if this girl has made a complaint too the police they would come to your house to speak to your son,they wouldn`t leave up to the girl to casually tell your son he has to go and speak to them.she does sound like an attention seeker.could you not speak to her with your son present.as he is only 14 it wouldn`t be out of place to have you their.as the other op has said avoid her.but i would talk to her and sort this out.good luck!

[pinktwink]

if the police wish to speak tpo your son they will make contct and you can be present as he is a minor. All he can do is tell them what he saw best to stick to the facts though rather than your opinion of her or your sons s as that is what the police will want. I wouldnt worry too much your son has done nothing wrong