You really need to speak to a new/different solicitor. It seems to me that the one you have currently is not capable of dealing with the situation. i.e. is probably a conveyancing solicitor and not used to dealing with probate matters. You are not legally divorced so you are entitled to a share of your husband's estate, even if a will was made excluding you, you can dispute this. Your children are still, legally, your husband's responsibility, dead or not. They are entitled to the remainder of his estate after your share. You really really need to see a more qualified solicitor and, if necessary, make a complaint to the Law Society about the inept one you current have retained. Once probate has been granted a will is public property. Go along to your local district Probate Office and obtain a copy of the will. You may have to make a small payment for this. The Executors have a legal obligation to close the estate of the deceased within a reasonable amount of time. You can sue them on behalf of your children you know!