Morbid, I Hope Not.

[TWR]

We went for a local walk today that led the walk through our local Cemetery, a friend of mine died 3 years ago & his family has made a really good job of his resting place, as I look at the Grave I said "Alright Joe" as this was the banter between the lads at that time, I then wondered about Death, I do not think It was Morbid but wondered, did he hear / see me, then I began to think about my brother's in OZ that passed a year or two ago, are they here Spirit, is this a silly assumption? it's strange what goes through your mind.

[gness]

Hi, Sweetie.....I believe when you're gone that's it.....but I do chat to MrG here and at his grave and sometimes odd things happen that stop me in my tracks and make me wonder.

I met a friend last week who had been to a medium and was thrilled with all the messages and chat she got from her late husband through the medium.

Between you and me I think the poor soul was glad to be able to finally get a word in without interruptions ........☺

[Elina]

Hi TWR, pretty normal I'd say. It's nice to talk in the normal way you would have done to people who are no longer here, helps us cope. I'm sure you've reflected a lot today on good times now gone. I did the same today after watching a drama ( The c word ) .... a true story about a lady with cancer. Very emotional, made me reflect on members of family recently passed away.

[woofgang]

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[mikey4444]

As an atheist TWR, I will of course say that he can't hear you, or even know you are there. But I always feel near my Mum and Dad when I visit their graves at this time of year. Graves are for the living, not the dead and they act as a focus for our emotions, and there is nothing remotely wrong with that at all.

What you experiencing is perfectly normal and is part of our human nature, and the last thing it can be described as is morbid !

I always leave some flowers, as both Mum and Dad were great gardeners, especially Mum, and it is what she would have done, and did do, for other relatives. Enjoy your visits !

[ummmm]

I don't believe in God but I don't believe death is the end (maybe wishful thinking)

[bookbinder]

I like to think that my deceased parents are together now, somewhere, but my father was 38 when he died and my mother was 81. Would my father want a wife of 81? What do believers in the afterlife say about that?

[Elina]

I believe we develop over the years, a kind of spiritual connection with the people we love/ are close to in our lives , that's especially tuned in near to the end of that persons life. There's definitely something. I felt an all consuming love envelope me the day before my dad passed away, something I have never experienced before.

[ummmm]

Bookbinder....the age they were at their happiest :-)

[ummmm]

Elina...I had an deep sense of doom a few hours before my aunt died. She died in a motorbike accident aged 46, so wasn't something expected.

[Elina]

Ummmm, I think spiritual awareness intensifies at certain times in our life. The connection is there.

[ummmm]

I agree.

[Peter Pedant]

No it is normal for anglo saxons TWR

50% ( of anglos) when asked say they hear their dead relatives speaking to them. Presumably in the 600's ( no not the 1600's )it was the reason why Augustine found them so easy to convert to Christianity [ non angli sed angeli, yeah that guy ] in that he could persuade them their dead relatives werent in Valhalla but Heaven and truly having a great time .


I was subjected to psychiatric exam when I started hearing my ( dead ) mother who was telling me I had cancer ( I had, as it turned out ). I told the incomprehending Iranian psych that she should check - 50% of anglos heard their dead relatives on a regular basis and so it wasnt abnormal, it was completely normal for my culture. She checked and agreed

Not morbid at all - part of your culture

[TWR]

Hi my apple, good times never leave your memory, Elina, we seen that last night " The C Word" Sheridan done a very good job of the true life story of Lisa.

[ummmm]

It was brilliant, TWR, very moving.

[Canary42]

Nothing morbid in your thoughts at all.

What is morbid is pretending they're in another place waiting for you to join them.

[TWR]

Not so often I show emotions Ummmm, last night I did x

[ummmm]

So did I. I cried most the way through it x

[TWR]

To you all, do you ever think of, " When it's my time" does it frighten you?

[ummmm]

Yep...the thought frightens me.

[paddywak]

It's a funny thing I too believe that when we die thats it but when I go to Mum & Dads grave as I always find myself talking to then as I do my little bits of tidying up, letting them know whats happening in the family etc.On my way back to the carpark I always stop at the grave of a friend of mine who was killed in the pit and keep him upto date on what the lads are doing,as I said it's funny when I don't believe in life after death or perhaps just keeping their memory alive does the job.As to when my time comes you just have to take it as it comes there's nothing we can do about it but hope it's qqquick and painless