Man Believes He Was Wrong To Change His Gender

[naomi24]

//A man who was transitioning to become a woman, has had surgery to reverse the first of a series of planned operations to change his sex.

Joshua McParland, from Belfast, said he now believes it was wrong to try to change his gender and that he had been "running away" from problems in his life.

"Through primary school people would mistake me for a girl, because I had a high pitched voice and I had long hair..."So that's where the confusion of my identity sort of happened… because I looked so feminine.

"You're like a sponge as a child, absorbing people's opinions."

In January 2024 he travelled to Turkey for breast implants.

He said he changed his mind about going ahead with any further surgeries after becoming a Christian and just ahead of surgery to change his genitals.

"That was my first time that I was ever honest with myself, that I actually wasn't a woman".//

 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c9vy3j0n3vno

Are the young and confused far too easily influenced by others?

[barry1010]

Yes they are. So many children feel different, feel they don't fit in, are miserable. Some may  think reinventing will be the answer.

Others crave attention for any number of reasons, they want to feel special, important - and this is one way to do it.

Many adults are being influenced by what they engage with online and face to face peer pressure. It has to be harder for children to determine what is false information, recognise dangerous people and ideas. 

[ynnafymmi]

Nothing to do with the question but..."before he became a Christian"...any idea what religious faith he followed prior to being a Christian?

[naomi24]

Given his name and location he's obviously been raised in a Christianity-based society.  

[ynnafymmi]

Lets hope that the NI NHS didnt have any burdensome costs imposed on them by this numptie and his delusions.

[ToraToraTora]

Yes absolutely. In the US the first sign of being slightly towards a non birth gender and they start pumping them full of drugs. The world's gone mad.

[naomi24]

I think by denigrating him you do him a disservice, ynnafymmi.  He's young, he's been adversely influenced, and I think it's very brave of him to acknowledge reality.  I admire him and wish him nothing but the best.

 

[Atheist]

Does anyone know if others have regretted it?

[DDIL]

I am all for people being allowed to change gender given the proper support.

It sounds like he bucked the system and any help that may have been available by going to Turkey.

I hope he is happy with whatever outcome he decides upon.

[ynnafymmi]

Just as long as it didnt burden the NHS with costly treatment for this numptie im happy naomi.

[DDIL]

//Lets hope that the NI NHS didnt have any burdensome costs imposed on them by this numptie and his delusions.//

I doubt it very much as the NI NHS is very tight and barely meets the minimum required - I am currently on a 70 week waiting list for my disability treatment.

[naomi24]

atheist, I know someone who, encouraged by people at university, began hormone treatment.  He's now changed his mind.

[237SJ]

I remember seeing a programme about someone like this years ago.  The guy was an Iranian or Iraqi millionaire in the UK who changed gender.  Gender wasn't his problem in the end so he changed back again.  He said he was just a failure as a man and should have dealt with that instead of thinking he should be a woman.

[barry1010]

I've read a few reports about people who have detransitioned. Difficult to find reliable statistics.

[237SJ]

Looks like he/she has changed their mind again! https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6067657/Transgender-lawyer-undergoes-gender-assignment-surgery-time.html

 

[barry1010]

Long read, but an example of someone who couldn't decide to be Martha or Arthur

https://medium.com/@voicebykylie/third-times-the-charm-why-i-de-transitioned-twice-before-transitioning-again

[naomi24]

237SJ, that's interesting.  It makes me wonder what he expected of himself as a man.  It seems to me that such people have strange ideas of what it is to be a man or a woman which is why men who decide they're women so often end up looking and behaving like few real women ever do or would.  His picture in the link as his version of a woman demonstrates that. 

[barry1010]

I agree, Naomi. So many men who transition choose to look like a fantasy caricature of a woman. 

[naomi24]

They so often behave like it too, barry.  

[barry1010]

Drag queen diva vibe. 

[naomi24]

Exactly.