Few questions for those of you who are married...

[CAJ1]

How much did your wedding cost?

If you could do it again, would you spend more or less money?

Did you have kids before or after you were married?

[B00]

Errm, was quite a while ago, but it was as cheap as possible!

Definitely more, I wanted the full tacky Vegas Little White Chapel wedding, I thought it'd be a laugh, sadly funds wouldn't allow.

Already had a child from a previous relationship, so a child beforehand, then another came along after.

PS
Why you asking?

[Bbbananas]

2nd marriage was in Jamaica - cost around £5K. that was cos we took my 2 kids - the son who 'gave me away' and the daughter who was a flower girl. The 5K was the cost of the holiday, wedding & everything.
At the time, it was worth every penny.

[ummmm]

I'm planning to get married in Vegas....

[CAJ1]

Thanks for the answers so far!

Boo - My boyfriend turned 30 recently and said he would like children in the next year or so, I would love to and am ready to have children but I would also like to be married first. I don't think I want a big posh do so I was trying to work out how much it would cost to marry and wanted to know if anyone that had had a cheap wedding regretted it! The other option is to have kids first and get married later... Just trying to work out what would be best. We have just put a £10k deposit down on a house so I know it would be a few years before we could save up enough for a wedding

[logic]

CHRIST,
who'd want to do it again. :-(

[ummmm]

You could just get married at the registry office so you'll be married when you have kids. You can always save up for to renew your vows.

[Bbbananas]

Not bitter at all then vibes?!!

(Me neither.... much )

[lambieirnbru]

barely anything we got married in living room of grans council house by local minister

should have spent slightly more but dont regret it, it was lovely and informal everyone was happy and relaxed and it was 16 years ago so it done the trick ! plus you have to think the more you spend, your guests will probably have to do the same , theres been plenty of weddings i would have enjoyed more if it hadnt cost so much in outfits for the family, travel costs and maybe hotel for night then spending money !(we dont have much spare cash)

oh and we had one child before and one after.

[Bbbananas]

same here actually vibra - although violence played a big part in the ending of our marriage, if we had both took better care of our relationship, I honestly don't think that violence would have happened. Alcohol, illness, violence - it's a vicious vicious circle.
He turned nasty, for various reasons, but I would still say he was the love of my life (so far - I live in hope!!)

[redcrx]

dont forget Caj that it also depends how long ago it was.

My wedding cost about £5k but that was 14 years ago.

but what do you want? you need to get a rough idea first. A hotel wedding can be cheaper if booked for a sunday or weekday. some will allow outside caterers. Or a church wedding followed by a late party, to avoid the extra cost of evening reception.

[CAJ1]

I have another question...for those of you who had kids before marriage, did it cause any problems - like the surname of the child being different to one of you etc?

[CAJ1]

I didn't think of that redcrx!

All would be fine if I won the lottery! :)

[CAJ1]

Thanks carabint

[annie0000]

Bearing in mind I have been married for nearly 14 years now, our wedding was about £2.5k. It could have been a lot cheaper but we spent £700 on a band and then we had a disco after the band finished, so a lot of our budget went on the enteratinment. We didn't have a lot to spare so we shoppped around and did a lot of things ourselves. We made our own invites, wedding favours etc. I wasn't that fussy about a really fancy dress, I ended up getting a bridesmaids dress made in Ivory as I wanted something simple. We bought tied bouquets from a flower shop for the bride etc.

I would do it the same way again if I ever got married again. It got us used to working together as a team.

Had kids after marriage, but don't think it matters too much now.