Do you ever get over losing your Mum?

[Bobbisox]

I have had an awful day, tried my best to cry, and miss her,,,but it's hard!
when do you ever feel that the day of her anniversary will be painless ?
Probably never !

Bobbi x

[Bobbisox]

<not to cry>

[ethandron]

how long has it been bobbi? i reckon it took me a good 2 years before i could talk about my mum properly, and maybe a couple more after that before i could allow myself to really think about her. i never remember the anniversary of her death, or my dads or sisters (they're all sometime in june/july) they're not dates i want in my head. i prefer to remember them on their birthdays, or mothers or fathers day, or other odd times which were very special.
just have a good old cry, wipe your eyes and blow your nose, put your shoulders back, chin up and do something nice for yourself.

[NoMercy]

If I lost my mum, I don't imagine I'd ever get over it.

[ethandron]

no, you don't ever get over it but you do learn to live with it and find ways of coping.

[sara3]

Bobbi, you have happy memories.. you've been blessed x

[Mamyalynne]

I almost sent you a message earlier as I knew it was today. Its hard to answer your question as I was closer to my Dad and I stil miss the bones of him after 30 years , I do miss Mum but in a different way. If you were close then you will feel it badly and yes one day you will be able to smile even on the anniversary.♥

[Bobbisox]

It's been a long time but the pain won't go away, I didn't want to say anything earleier in the day, but I feel the need to unburden myself a now...sorry x

[micmak]

Losing your Mum or Dad is hard. Losing a child, even harder.

[LoftyLottie]

My dad died when he was younger than I am now and I still miss him. Mum died last year and it was a happy release. She really hadn't been like my mum for a good few years before she died, so I did my grieving before she died, if you know what I mean. I am not one for dates and anniversaries (never celebrated a wedding anniversary either) but I think of both of them and sometimes do get very sad. The day she died is not a date I even want to remember.

I always think of both Mum and Dad on their birthdays but not with any sadness.

[hippyhoppy]

I lost mum back in Feb and, because I live quite far away, I've not been to bad (not reminded of her by her things, dad, etc). Saying that I'm off on Friday to 'dad-sit' to give my brothers and sisters a rest, and that will be the first time back at her house since the funeral. I'll be tricky, I suppose.... Wishing you lovely thoughts Bobbi xx

[boxtops]

My sister and I are finding that we miss our mum more as we get older ourselves, and we start to experience ourselves some of the things she borely uncomplainingly, like pain and less mobility. Mum died seven years ago in January - it would have been her birthday last week and we certainly remember her then. She was nearly 94 when she died, having led a full and gutsy life - an independent lady, born ahead of her time. I still think "Mum would have enjoyed hearing about that",when good things happen.

[supersuezy24]

Hi Bobbi, Hope you are ok, get Bill to give you a huge cuddle xx

[boxtops]

Rest assured, bobbi, we know what you are feeling ♥

[Bobbisox]

anger, sadness , all of those things I suppose,I have probably fely 100 times worse today with me hearing my friend has a couple of weeks to live as I said last nighty
life is cruel...

[Bobbisox]

mikmak,,,I am sorry, that must be so dreadful

[Bobbisox]

omg, the spelling mistakes!

[micmak]

Bobbisox, I'm sorry I said what I did. I did not mean to encroach on your grief. I still grieve for both my parents.

[237SJ]

Bobbisox - your Mum isn`t dead, she lives on through you