I really need to talk .... Is any body there?

[Traci66]

Horrendous day, OH overdosed, then got arrested, feeling so down.

[MASS1961]

Explain? Overdosed why? Got arrested ..when? on the way home from hospital?
Feel for you..I think?

[Traci66]

I had to take the grandson back to Newcastle, phoned oh when I got there and he asked me not to come home for a couple of days as he wanted some space. Daughter phoned me to say she had come home and found him drunk and a load of empty pill packets beside him (170 gabapentin), he was conscious and very abusive, ambulance called, police also came, I drove back from Newcastle and when I got to the hospital he was sleeping. He awoke after a few hours and became aggressive and abusive and was trying to leave, hence, once again the police were called to him when it was decided it was best tp out him in the cells overnight. This is not his first suicide attempt and I am worried that he is going to be released in the morning and we are not going to receive any proper help.

[MASS1961]

Is this Husband or partner, Father or not. If not, think of yourself and kids. I'm sorry but this is a very late post, I'm sure you would get more advice at a different time. BE SAFE

[Traci66]

This is my husband, I know it's late, but I've just got back and just felt the need to talk, I don't want to lay it on either of my daughters.

[Traci66]

I know I had all that with my mother the other week, (who is still clinging on, and no I haven't been to see her), but somehow I always mange to get through, just finding it difficult tonight.

[chi-chi66]

I do sympathise with you're situation..seeing as he has done this before, but I can't really offer a lot of advice. As MASS said, to-morrow you will probably get people with experience on something like this giving you good advice.

Try and get some rest..my thoughts are with you xxxx (( hugs ))

[Traci66]

Maybe I should go to bed and check back in the morning, thank you, good night and god bless xx

[Slapshot]

My heart goes out to you Traci but there's not a lot anyone can say right now. Have you thought of trying Samaratins for some advice as how to get through this just now, it might be your best chance of an ear tonight

[MASS1961]

I wish I could advise on your best course of action but if you feel afraid/threatened you should not be there if he is released. Have you family,friends you can go to and then sort things out when things have calmed down? I really hope you can sleep tonight and wake up with a clear head. Goodnight. x

[tinkerbell23]

So sorry traci- hospital should hopefully have a mental health assesment abd possible help from mental health team or something. Express your concerns to the nurses and see how they can help you.... Xxx

[Traci66]

Rinks, thanks, I did that but he was being so aggressive they had him arrested and I'm really worried the police are going to release him in the morning without getting any real help.

[cupid04]

Traci66. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Hope you get the support you need.xx

[Traci66]

^^^Tinks

[tinkerbell23]

Awww traci :(

I dont think that the police have a great track record- mabye you can self refer to the community mental health team?.... I wish you all the best.... You are having a really sh1tty time hun :( big hug xx

[flobadob]

This is obviously an horrendous situation. Traci I assume you are in your 50s and have been married for years. I assume that this sort of thing has happened many times before though not always as serious as this.

Do yo still love this man? Do you think he loves you? Are you happy day to day or are you worried about what may happen next? Do you get through most days without being treated like a piece of poo by your partner?

You've probably got another 50 years on this planet and do you want to spend them like this? Have a good talk with a friend and think about your own happiness and think about your future.

Be happy.

[Traci66]

Really big THANK YOU Tinks, gonna try and get some sleep now, taking phone with me because I have asked police to phone me so I can express my concerns to them, not worried he will harm me, just himself. Thank you.

[bunkmoreland]

hi traci,my heart goes out to you. do you know which station he was taken to? maybe you could phone and explain your fears,both about him and yourselves? the hospital should have covered this,but,your call could only help? get the name of the officer you talk to,and write down afterwards what he/she says. you are in shock at the minute,and its difficult to remember things later.

[bunkmoreland]

by the time i had posted this,i see you have police contact etc. hope you can get some sort of rest tonight,all the best,bm

[Ann]

Just read your post Traci from last night - how awful for you. Hope you are feeling ok this morning and things are working out and you are getting some support. Our thoughts are with you x

[tinkerbell23]

Not at all Traci ...keep us posted always here for a chat xx