We don't really bother with our wedding anniversary, in fact I very nearly forgot it this year... We do like to mark the anniversary of when we got together though. Nothing fancy, usually just a conversation along the lines of "x years together then?" "did you think all those years ago..." etc etc.
I'm like you sher, I do like a fuss for birthdays. If Mr P were to forget mine there would be a riot.
And I couldn't give a fig about Valentines day (although I will admit to liking a card).