Peaches Geldoff Has Died

[hc4361]

Only 25, very sad news.

[ummmm]

Ann...no one knows what happened yet!

[Ann]

No - you are absolutely right Ummm but even if it was natural causes those poor little children are left without a Mummy. Tragic whatever the cause. Maybe it would be easier for those left to come to terms with if it was a sudden illness instead of suicide.

[ummmm]

I think you also need to understand more of what goes on in a suicidal persons head before you ask why they do it to the children.

[ELVIS68]

Feel sorry for Bob Geldof, he done all that good work for charity and now this has happened, so sad

[mikey4444]

I don't know anything about this minor celebrity but does anyone know if its likely to be drugs involved ?

[joko]

it could be lots of things - electric shock, some kind of accidental poisoning, bad reaction to something, , carbon monoxide, fall down the stairs, delayed reaction to something else, serious mystery illness, undiagnosed heart condition ...

she was not especially known to be a big druggy or boozer

[mikey4444]

Thanks joko.... irs just that drugs nearly always seem to be involved

[sp1814]

According to reports in the paper - no drugs, not suspicious, and no suicide note.

All very sad indeed.

What I meant earlier 'thought she had got through', was that it seemed she had beaten her demons and turned her life around...which makes this even sadder (like when Amy Winehouse kicked the drugs and then died two years later).

[emmie]

i confess i was shocked on hearing this on the news last evening, poor lass, poor family...

[WELSHYORKIE]

More tragedy for the Geldofs - can only send my sympathies to all concerned - very sad

[anneasquith]

ann..................'' why do they do it to their young children, its so so sad '' at least have the dignity to hear the PM result before posting :(

[Prudie]

My local paper has reported 2 young adults 'dropping dead' in the last month. There is no reason at all at the moment to assume there must be something dodgy about Peaches, very sadly young people do sometimes die suddenly without warning.

[andy-hughes]

DTCwordfan - "...if depression, then why didn't they know/have any idea?..."

As anyone who knows anything about depression will tell you, the depressive learns very early on to paint a mask on their face and hide behind it.

The reason why the reaction to suicide is often 'They were the last person you'd think ... why didn't they talk to someone ...' is because - that is what makes them the very first person.

Depression isolates you from everyone except your demons, who crowd in and fill the space left by your loved ones whom you can no longe reach, and who live in blissful unawareness of your desparation.

When you do reach that depth where death is a wlecom alternative to another sixty seconds of feeling like this, then you are long past communication with anyone, or thinking outside yourself to the consequences of your demise.

There is just you and the demons, no-one and nothing else, and only one solution offers you peace - so you glady embrace it.

That is not to suggest that poor Peaches died by her own hand - merely to confirm that if that is the case, there is nothing her friends or family could have done to see what was coming, or to stop it from happening.

[andy-hughes]

Ann - "Why do they do it to their children its so so sad."

Simple answer? They don't. Thoughts of children or family evaporated a long time before the stage of suicide is reached. By the time the welcome blessed release beckons, any rational thought or ability to ask for help has long gone, never to return.

So please don't think ill of a suicide - they just did what they had to do to kill the pain.

[jomifl]

sp, not being a follower of the glitterati, I don't understand your 'made it through' reference.

[jomifl]

sp, didn't see your later post..

[Captain2]

andy-hughes, re your posts at 11.26/8
As someone who has somebody very close who is fighting depression at the moment, may I thank you for the working, content and summation within your posts. I think that you have given a wonderful insight in straightforward terms - best I have read. Thanks

[andy-hughes]

Captain2 - thanks for your kind words.

I built up an intellectual understanding of suicide as a Samartian for three years.

I then experienced the concept up close and personal after a complete nervous breakdown and three months in a psychiatric ward.

So I do know of what I speak, and my mental health has been hard won.

I think your phrase 'fighting depression' is absolutely appropriate - the daily struggle against the sheer negativity of every thought is utterly exhausting, hence the lethargy that usually accompanies the condition.

The mood swings, the temper, the hostility and apparently deliberate attempts to hurt and drive away the people closest to the depressive are also typical - if you hate yourself to that level, you can't imagine being worthy of the love and support of anyoneone else, so you spend what little energy you have trying to make them hate you as much as you hate yourself.

I wish your loved one every good wish with their demons, you can get past it and live again, you can get your personality back, I feel for you and your helpless feelings and inability to do anything practical.

Your support will win in the end - it is appreciated by your loved one - think of their bad behaviour as that of a drunk - you know you are behaving badly, but you can't stop yourself doing it, and you do regret it, but lack the communication skills to convey that.

Hope this helps.

[Zeuhl]

Someone close to me died unexpectedly at 33 of natural causes. She had seemed perfectly healthy with everything to live for.
And a friend died in his sleep at 40 - again unexpectedly.

So it does happen.

[wolf63]

One of my many psychiatrists described depression as 'anger internalised'.

I hope that she died of natural causes.

It doesn't matter who she was or who her parents are/were ~ 25 is too young to die, far too young.