6years,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,the smell would have been horrendous. fly's and blue bottles will have been swarming around the house and at windows, .do we have an obligation to care about our neighbours, is some circumstances yes. very sad.
If she lay in a room with the open windows that opened onto the garden area the smell would dissipate and certainly by last summer, decomposition would have been so far advanced, hence no smell to speak of - I am not trying to lighten the horror of this at all.
the facts seem to point to a cardiac arrest and the poor dear lady likely died very quickly indeed, I think we feel for the indignity of her lying there so long.
I suppose we know most of our neighbours at least to 'nod to'.
Yesterday I visited the house in a London suburb where a young relative (33) died unexpectedly last June.
I stood outside for a while thinking about her and noticed a middle aged woman in the next door garden; "excuse me, did you know the young lady who lived next door last year?"
I am sure that if I think about it long enough, I would be able to think of a worse job than an undertakers assistant DB ! But I'm glad that somebody is doing it...we all need an undertaker at some point in our lives after all.
I will look forward to that DB. When my mother died in 1996, her and Dad had been divorced for years and she had remarried. But her remarriage always played on Dads mind and he was continually asking myself and my brothers questions. Dad and New Husband did accidently bump into each other, in a local Pub and fists were thrown.
When she was buried, both Dad and her new husband attended at the grave. As the oldest son, I was nominally in charge of funeral arrangements and fearing trouble, I put Dad in the care of some of my bigger cousins and gave the other bigger ones the responsibility of looking after her new husband. We kept them apart right up until the time when she was lowered into the grave and then a scuffle broke out. I was mortified but the Parish Priest, from the same village as my Dad back in Ireland, calmly separated the two and carried on. Apparently he boxed for his county as a young man.
so why did the car vanish....whatever the reason, the fact that it seems to have happened at the same time as she died means this was an unlucky coincidence that misled people, not necessarily a sign of man's inhumanity to man.
Not that I'd have the slightest idea if any of my neighbours died, nor the reverse. I know them to say hello to, but I don't visit twice a week to check their pulses.
It's really sad- not so much that the neighbours didn't know - she wasn't elderly and people often keep to themselves- but more that she didn't have a single friend or family member to wonder where she was. Six years!
Why is there any obligation to know your neighbours? I don't think living within a short distance from someone means you have to become friends bor have any responsibility towards each other; I don't understand this mentality at all.
We do know our neighbours, more because thry made an effort with us than vice versa and we're not ignorant enough to be rude to people being polite., however nodding terms would havd been fine with me.
I find thesd sorts of threads lamenting how no one noticed sanctimonious, some of these people found dead years later could also be antisocial misery guts just like me :-)
If I'm honest what stunned me most that there were 2 very obviously open windows for all those years and no-one broke in. I'd certainly have taken note of that as a neighbour.
I know my immediate neighbours but I know some of the others only by sight. We're not obliged all to keep an eye on each other. People move, people vanish - I wouldn't query where they've gone if I don't know them.
I think Naomi is making a point similar to mine earlier - one shocked neighbour ( who had lived there two years) ie, never even knew of her existence, was quoted in an article.
Some places have rapid turnaround of occupants these days.
6years,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,the smell would have been horrendous. fly's and blue bottles will have been swarming around the house and at windows, .do we have an obligation to care about our neighbours, is some circumstances yes. very sad.
Two windows were open, the lady may have died in winter (less fly activity as such), do we have an obligation? (I'm not sure you can put it like that) she wasn't a disabled or sickly person by all accounts and neighbours at the time thought she had moved out.
As said I have good neighbours younger and older than me also in the past had ones that told me rudely where to go if I offered to help (still did it) but an obligation ?? Hmmmm
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