At some length I went on about why this is a clash of definitions more than anything else. I'm not going to repeat that here, although I did want to emphasise that I really do dislike the attitude some people working for equality take, which appears to amount to "if you are not with us then you must be against us". If she can't see how bad #killallwhitemen looks, joke or not, then she is in the wrong job as far as I'm concerned.
What bothers me about it, too, is the idea that it's OK to make such jokes (which, to be fair, I sort of agree with so long as it's clear that it's a joke) in one direction but not the other. The closest I have got to being involved in a racist incident was when I made some joke involving "the n-word", primarily because I'm known in life for being incredibly reluctant to use 'strong language' so it had a bit of a shock value. I can't entirely remember the context, but what I do remember is that I instantly apologised to the people I'd told it to and explained that I didn't really mean what I'd said.
The actual racist incident bit, the way I see it, came over a week later, when I was barred entry to a party by someone whose party it was not because, somehow*, he had found out about what I'd said -- but apparently hadn't troubled himself to learn about either the context or the apology I'd already made. And so, in my own college, this man had taken it on himself to tell me that I wasn't allowed inside various parts of the college grounds, and that I wasn't welcome. His being bigger than me didn't help matters. I was effectively frog-marched along the street back to my own flat, having been heavily intimidated and threatened, and there's a limit to how much of that I could take. Especially as I was terrified that I might be thrown out of university for it. Oh, and in the aftermath he made reference to "middle-class white guys" and various other racist views. Massive chip on this particular person's shoulder. Luckily the college took my side, but then in his memorable words they would, of course, as we were all "middle-class white guys".
What bothers me the most is that I know how this diversity officer would react to this tale. She'd defend him from accusations of racism, probably to the hilt. No matter that he never listened to any apologies. No matter that he manhandled me. No matter that he told me I wasn't welcome in what was effectively my own garden. It's not racist, apparently, and therefore almost by definition less frowned-upon. I know this because in conversation with someone last year I related the same story and was told that it was not racist, and why that was so. I can't quite remember what they thought of the incident, but as soon as you downgrade racism to "just" discrimination then it becomes by definition less severe.
Since at the same time such a redefinition comes along with talk of "allies", and in-jokes like #killallwhitemen (and why stop at white? Some ultra-radical feminists, albeit a tiny minority, seem to want to go further still...). It is not how equality should work and I really hope that people like her are only in charge of the equality movement for a short time. It's a shame, as there is still work to do before none of this matters any more.
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* He actually found out because my friends decided it would be funny to plaster what I'd said all over the room in which the party was taking place. Ho hum.