When Did He Become Scared For Life?

[dave50]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3252949/Schoolboy-seduced-disgraced-teaching-assistant-reveals-sex-50-times-told-pregnant.html
Was it after the first time or the fiftieth? Im sorry but it just doesn't wash. Yes it was very wrong and she should be sacked, but abuse? He was 15, come on, he must have thought all his Christmases had come at once.

[bazwillrun]

Some people need to get a life...

The only thing thats scaring, scarring anybody here is the publicity...if it werent for that, hed be happy as larry...

theres some real old duffers on here and you certainly show it...get real, hes had the time of his life, fifty times of of his life...

[andy-hughes]

bazwillrun - //theres some real old duffers on here and you certainly show it...get real, hes had the time of his life, fifty times of of his life... //

If being an 'old duffer' means I don't share an unreconstructed nineteenth century attitude to sexual abuse of children, then I will be delighted to be seen as such.

[steg]

bazwillrun, so the sexual exploitation of children is ok in your book?

[bazwillrun]

Sexual exploitation..do me a favour, get real...hahahaaa

hes loved every minute of it..

[steg]

And if it was a girl?

[Sqad]

"Sexual Exploitation" in my book invokes a "unilateral" appreciation of the act, forced, uncalled for and unpleasant.

I find it difficult to accept that the above definition was in any way enforced.

But yes.....that is MY definition.

[steg]

In fact I would rather you didn't answer as I don't think I would like to converse with a person like your self

[andy-hughes]

bazwillrun - //Sexual exploitation..do me a favour, get real...hahahaaa

hes loved every minute of it.. //

If you can step outside your barroom amusment for a moment, consider this -

What if he had agreed the first time, and been blackmailed into the rest?

What if he was too frightened and intimidated to refuse?

What if he was not as 'wordly' as your scenario would have it - and he didn't really know what was going on?

Does it start to sound less like a 'jolly' and more like the abuse it actually is?

Because any of the above is possible - real life is not all like a story from a top-shelf magazine, as you seem to want to believe.

[Sqad]

andy

\\\What if he had agreed the first time, and been blackmailed into the rest?

What if he was too frightened and intimidated to refuse?

What if he was not as 'wordly' as your scenario would have it - and he didn't really know what was going on? \\\\

From what i have read, there is no evidence for the above.

I may well be wrong.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - //From what i have read, there is no evidence for the above.

I may well be wrong. //

There is no evidence, but it is food for thought isn't it?

And if the possibilities steer people away from the stereotypical view of abuse like this, then that has to be a good thing in my view.

[Sqad]

andy

\\\\There is no evidence, but it is food for thought isn't it? \\\

Yes.......I have thought about it.......but it doesn't add anything to the debate in my view.

\\\\\stereotypical view of abuse like this,\\\\\

As I mentioned above, this is not MY idea of stereotypal abuse as i have already given my definition, which may or may not be accepted by others or, indeed, the law.

He doesn't strike me as being an innocent, vulnerable 15year old to me, but i have no evidence for this..............but it is food for thought.

[Mosaic]

Calm down dears.....
The person was employed in a position of trust. The rule in school is strictly hands off the kids. You are not their friend - although you may be friendly. You do not socialise - although there may be school-appointed media through which communications or meet-ups can happen.
This is all explained up-front as part of the contract, and if you don't intend to abide by it, you need to leave.
This person chose to stay and overturn all the rules.

The law in the UK gives an age of consent of 16. Again, this person chose to break the law. That isn't to say that under-16s aren't having sex. The law is designed to protect children from sexual exploitation.
All kids want to have the freedom that grown ups appear to have. So being treated as a grown up is a big attraction.

As we all know, being grown up isn't all haha heehee. And having your heart broken is hard without knowing you'll get called all sorts of names, it'll be all over school, social media means it will probably follow you through life, and the perpetrator smiles and pouts for the cameras.

The perpetrator should be punished for breaking the law, but at least we know they will be unemployable in any position that involves children. It's unfair to think that the media may reward them in the short term by paying for stories, but life ain't fair. Life's also a long song, and one payout from Take a Break won't see you through into old age.

I have kept my post gender-neutral to wind Baz up. No, not really, just because the points made work for all genders.

[Mosaic]

You don't need pocket money - contraception services are provided freely to young people.

[ummmm]

There's a few comments on facebook about this from young lads. So far they all think he's lucky.

[Ric.ror]

I don't doubt for a minute the young man enjoyed every second BUT she still should have known better and (as I said) I would not want have wanted her in a position of power over my children

[Ric.ror]

I wonder if people would feel differently if this was a male teacher/male pupil issue?
I rather suspect some would

[Sqad]

ric ror

\\\\\if this was a male teacher/male pupil issue? \\\\\

I would find it completely unacceptable.

But it isn't, it is a heterosexual relationship.