My daughter is getting married soon - i'll suggest to her that in the invitations that they include a catalogue from Harrods ( other stores are available ) stating that they will only accept the gifts as marked therein.
Appalling comes to mind shows how ungrateful people are today years ago if you were invited to a wedding you bought a gift it didn't matter if they ended up with three kettles toasters etc it was all appreciated and we used to visit the house to see the gifts on display now it is all money if you have to depend on donations have a simple wedding! In this particular case I would cancel the cheque or ask for it to be returned for adjustment and send one for a penny!
If it's true, I wouldn't have anything to do with Bridezilla. Very rude.
We sent a substantial amount to OH's niece for her wedding, and didn't receive a thank you. They seem to be so selfish nowadays.
I wouldn't have sent a cheque in the first place. I have been asked in the past for money instead of a gift and I have always refused and asked to be given a list. If no list arrives - or it is a ridiculously expensive one - I buy my own choice of gift which I think the couple could use.
When I first married, an elderly neighbour made a peg-bag and filled it with pegs. It was very much appreciated by me and kept and used for years.