"One doesn't expect thanks from the youth when one saves them from themselves..."
Sigh... this is being framed exactly as expected depending on which side of the debate you were on. There would have been exactly as much noise and complaint had the positions been reversed -- and, I suspect, many people know that really. Or would you have thanked the winning Remain people for "saving us from ourselves", and been so pleased that the people you've spent ages denouncing as anti-British traitors elected to vote the way they did? Would none of you have thought that maybe a second referendum was a good idea? Remember that Farage was already calling for a second referendum if it was close enough the first time (and he was on the losing side). To exactly nobody's surprise, he's not quite so interested in holding a second referendum after a close result when he was on the winning side...
For the record, I don't think there should be a second referendum. I don't think the result should be ignored. I do think it was a fine example of democracy. If this result is illegitimate then so has been the result of pretty much every other election in history. It's a matter of record on AB that I wanted this referendum in the first place, and it would be pretty pathetic if that only applied as long as I was on the winning side.
I *am* sad about how it's gone. How couldn't I be? I genuinely felt, as strongly as you felt the opposite, that Britain's, and for that matter Europe's, future was best-served by remaining inside the EU. It follows that the future that awaits us is one that I didn't want, don't look forward to, and feel is going to be worse than the one I had chosen. I'm angry, too. Angry at all those people whose job it was to put the case for remaining in a strong way, and failed so signally to do so. Angry at how what was meant to be a vote about our relationship with the EU and Europe became so focused on our own political issues -- the decades-old divides in the Tory party and the ineptness of the Labour leadership. I'm seriously angry at those people who voted to Leave the EU and have then admitted that they did so only because they didn't think Leave was going to win, but it would be nice to send a message to Cameron. I guess as well there's some internal anger, because although I thought Brexit was a real possibility I didn't do more to try and persuade people to vote against it; others I know feel this more acutely because, in the words of one friend:
"I suppose for me I'm disappointed in my own arrogance that surrounded the whole debate. I just kinda assumed the country would [vote for the status quo] when it came down to it."
With such anger, disappointment, despair, sadness, fear, and the like, is it so surprising that some people are lashing out? The demographic divide is hard to ignore: by and large, the older generation has voted for a future that it isn't necessarily going to be able to enjoy, and is the opposite future to the one that the younger generation overwhelmingly preferred.
We'll never know which future is better because we can only live this one now, so the chances of thanking you about it later are pretty negligible actually. That inverted arrogance of some on the Leave camp also makes me angry. You have no idea if we'll thank you either. And if, in the event, it turns out that the future is less wonderful than it was promised to be... well , the ones who didn't choose it will have to regret it for you.
For now, the anger and bitterness that inevitably follows a shocking and painful defeat is going to cloud many people's perspectives, not least my own. After it's passed, we'll have to make the future the country has chosen work. That will require bridging the divides, not accentuating them. One way to start would be to stop jumping at young people every time they show passion for a cause they genuinely believed in and has been so suddenly snatched from them.