Three People Found Dead At Foot Of The White Cliffs Of Dover.

[ladybirder]

What a terrible start to the new year for their families.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4080038/Three-bodies-near-cliffs-Dover-say-police.html

[naomi24]

Gromit, 'there but for the grace .....', and all that.

[ladybirder]

A Coastguard search and rescue helicopter crew from Lydd was launched and spotted the man's body on the rocks, as well as the other bodies just half a mile away. The post mortems on all three bodies will be carried out on Tuesday according to the DM.
Gromit thanks for explaining. I get where you are coming from. I think I lean more to Anne's POV although I don't think it's always the case. One reads some accounts of a stroppy kid having a hissy fit over being told to do something or they can't have something they want and marching off and hanging themselves in the bedroom. Or a man or woman killing themselves and sometimes their children as well to spite their other half. Taking the children as well is unforgivable in my book.

[naomi24]

Apparently two of the three were a brother and sister in their 60s. The third death was unconnected.

http://news.sky.com/story/three-bodies-found-near-cliffs-in-dover-10714516

[anneasquith]

So sad :-(

[hereIam]

A cousin of mine committed suicide because he had terminal cancer, so I have every sympathy for people who reach this awful point.

[anneasquith]

I can see why your cousin would take that action. H.

[ladybirder]

Sorry hereIam, that's tragic for him and his friends and relatives. But understandable.

Thank you for the update Naomi. Very poignant somehow being an elderly brother and sister.

[anneasquith]

Thanks lb. What a relationship those siblings must have had . ?

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[paddywak]

As Anne says you can see were a person wtih terminal cancer might want to go on their own terms but I cant understand when kids do it. Some years ago a couple of friends of ours lost their 15yr old daughter to suicide. It shattered the whole families lives and to this day they've never got over it or found a creditable reason she was popular having no problems at home or school that they knew off,but one day she came in from school went into her bed room and killed herself.

[hereIam]

I agree totally with the best answer.

[tamborine]

The case I knew of a 40y suicidal man leaves me with little sympathy for his family, who disowned him because he was trans. They would not even allow his trans friends attend the funeral.

Sometimes its the closest rellies that cause the disaster.

[ladybirder]

How long ago did that happen Tambo? How someone can turn their back on their child over something that child has no choice about beats me.

[anneasquith]

Tambourine, what a sad sad situation. Re very young adults commuting suicide, a lifetime of torment for the family.

[jourdain2]

Just heard this morning that a friend's husband has committed suicide. (The 2nd one I've known in 10 years.) Trigger seems to have been his best friend's suicide and his own bullying by his employers. She has to absorb not having been enough to save the man she calls the 'love of my life'. In her early 50's. The pain and feeling of inadequacy don't bear thinking about.

It is, of course, very, very complex, I don't deny that, but ultimately it is selfish and the last word in control. I've helped to pick up the pieces once, the sadness of the first is still with me as I face the second time.

[tamborine]

Twas last summer, I think I reported on Ab of man jumping from high floor hotel in London. He was so talented, singer, musician & comedian.

[ladybirder]

Yes I found your thread. Your poor son. Terrible. I wonder if his friend's parents ever ponder on their part in their son's decision to take his lfe.

[andy-hughes]

jourdain - //I don't deny that, but ultimately it is selfish and the last word in control.

Control yes - it's the very last piece of control in an utterly uncontrolled world, and that is the powerful draw of it.

Selfish - no, because to be selfish, you have to have some recognition of yourself in terms of other people, and that has long since left you. There is nothing else there but the pain, and that has to be killed.