AOG - //I think that a certain footballer was classed a paedophile and sent to jail for a number of years even though he did not actually have penetrative sex, plus the fact that the relationship was consensual, and the young girl also did not press charges, if my memory serves me correctly.//
I am unsure of the case to which you refer.
The fact is, the media love to use the word 'paedophile' even when it is not the correct term, because it has seriously emotive connotations.
In this case, it is clear that this woman is not a paedophile in the accepted sense of the definition of the term.