This Is Such A Sad Story - Would It Be Better For The Children To Be Kept Together?

[bednobs]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-suffolk-46715113
it just seems to me that the children might be better off together in china? is it selfish of the grandparents to be briging just one of them home?

[Pyxis]

I don't know.
Do female children still get a raw deal in China? If so, then bringing the girl over here might be the best thing for her.

Are there any Chinese people on the forum that might be able to elucidate?

[Mamyalynne]

It's incredibly sad and I don't think I have the wisdom to come up with a solution that would be right for all - let alone the Chinese authorities.

[ChillDoubt]

Just read it on the BBC before looking in on AB.
Typical for China, females are second class citizens so it was obvious where she would go, better for her in the long run.
But to pay the family of the murderer £10,000 is rubbing salt in, an extra slap in the face.
Heartbreaking all round.

[bednobs]

no it is a "wisdom of solomon" judgement i suppose. It would seem to me that the ideal solution would be for the children to stay in china with the english grandparents being allowed to visit, and the children being allowed to visit here, however that wont obviously be allowed to happen

[woofgang]

I remember this being on TV around end october. Apparently the family's shame is so great that the children have told that their parents are away on business. If the story gets out then neither child is likely to have a happy life in China.

[naomi24]

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/ChatterBank/Question1556024-2.html

In light of the negative comments my original thread^ on this case attracted I did ask for it to be removed but fortunately it wasn't. I've met Ian, a lovely genuine man who's not only lost his son but has been to hell and back for his grandchildren. He won't give up his fight.

[Old_Geezer]

I fail to see how there needs to be any financial settlement. Sad the children can't be with both sets of grandparents, but it's not obvious that the maternal grandparents should have priority. There's no good solution, but selling one's granddaughter to her other grandparents seems a bizarre judgement.

[naomi24]

OG, from the little I've understood during the course of this case, Chinese law is bizarre.

[bednobs]

thanks for posting that Naomi, id forgotten i'd commented on this story before.
i presume the uk has agreed to take this girl now.

[woofgang]

As I understand it, the uk gov.t has always been happy to see the children move to the uk to live with their grandparents.

[naomi24]

To the best of my knowledge the children have dual nationality.

[Canary42]

Nasty exploitation of innocent children, used as mere pawns in adult manipulation. Inhuman.

[naomi24]

What's inhuman, Canary?

[Canary42]

inhuman
/ɪnˈhjuːmən/
adjective
1.
lacking human qualities of compassion and mercy; cruel and barbaric.
"the inhuman treatment meted out to political prisoners"
synonyms: cruel, harsh, inhumane, brutal, callous, sadistic, severe, savage, vicious, barbaric, barbarous;

[naomi24]

Canary, hot air again then.

[Prudie]

The only people who may be guilty of manipulation seem on the face of it to be the Chinese grandparents. I may be guilty of misconception but isn't keeping a boy in some remote place in China highly likely to be solely to support the grandparents? They have already proved their lack of love for taking money for the girl. One would assume that although the children lived in China they were being raised with Western attitudes and would suit that continuing. The whole situation is just awful.

[Peter Pedant]

jesus someone actually suggesting the kids are better off in a chinese farm as labourers working from dawn until dusk

hey ho - it is AB

[Peter Pedant]

// One would assume that although the children lived in China they were being raised with Western attitudes and would suit that continuing.//

excuse me did someone actually write that ?
the chinese have their own cultural values and norms

[Prudie]

Gawd knows what you're getting at PP but yes, their father is originally from Wimborne in Dorset and just happened to be working for Next out there so every likelihood that they were having a westernised upbringing.

[naomi24]

They were, Prudie – obviously. They were in the care of their father ….. until their mother murdered him. Peter Pedant’s all too regular slights against other posters would be more accurately ascribed to himself.