emmie, I haven't listened to it but I have been thinking about the whole 'colour' thing. When my wife was pregnant we used to speculate about how the baby would look - eye colour, hair, big and lumpy like me or petite like my wife. The wider family joined in - I expect that is the same for every pregnancy. If my wife and I were different skin colours no doubt that would have discussed too - without malice, just curiosity. Would he take after his grandparents, or hers?
Surely that can be discussed without causing offence?
Not the same as saying 'Oh heck, I hope he comes out a whiter shade of pale'.