"we all disagree with aspects of the ways our jobs require us to behave, but if we are contracted to adhere to those aspects, and choose not to adhere to them, then the consequences are followed"
Ok, but we all have moral duties to our fellow beings, and in this case the consequences should have been the school authorities admitting they were in the wrong and stopping this blatant encouragement for the child to deny their obvious reality. It's appalling that they are allowed to get away with this damaging practice. If harming those in their care isn't already illegal, then it should be made so ASAP.