Q for the Ladies!!!!.

[Rtaxron]

Would you be offended if you were whistled at going past a building site or being called Love or Sweetie by the bar staff in a pub? Whats is happening to this Country?

[libertie]

I'm getting to that stage in life where I'm quite mortified that I don't get whisled at anymore! :o(

[4getmenot]

whistling is annoying and men wouldnt like it, well some would. Its just embarrasing. Being called Love or sweetiw is just a friendly chat by bar staff like Northerners calling people duck so doesnt bother me. xx

[CAJ1]

Legend - g2g - got to go??? :-)

Rtaxron - no, I wouldn't be offended

[redcrx]

it can get rather annoying when as a director of a company I get cold sales calls from young girls who will insist on calling me love.

Im female and surely as a potential customer deserve a little bit of respect, especially as they dont know me at all

couldnt tell you if wolf whistles would offend me, havnt had a chance to find out lol

[ruby27]

Not sure this is a News question

However, in response to your question.

I don't like being referred to as a lady, I am a woman.

I don't like women being patronised, objectified or treated as someone who doesn't warrant a name

Saying hello and being freindly is very different from calling someone love. Calling someone love is something special that I reserve for those special people.

[Rtaxron]

Should have said, its about the new rules coming in this Sunday.
Seems a bit childish that the management can get done for their staff doing this.

[Rtaxron]

Its been in the news the past 2 Days.

[Gromit]

I'm afraid being lusted over is something I have had to get used to.

Don't mind 'luv' by retail workers. Women do it eaqually to men, so i do not see it as sexism.

What is happening to this country?
- A lot of the country's copulation have lost all their sense of objectivity and instead believe any old tosh they read in the papers.

[Gromit]

copulation??? read population (feudian slip).

[Rtaxron]

Well read this Gromit if you think its any old tosh?

[Rtaxron]

Oops, forgot this.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles /news/news.html?in_article_id=550808&in_page_i d=1770

[Gromit]

It is in the Daily Mail. And it is tosh. I rest my case.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles /news/news.html?in_article_id=550808&in_page_i d=1770

The rules are perfectly good and sensible.

[ludwig]

Ruby, you're wrong - saying hello and being friendly is not very different to calling someone love at all - it's often the exact same thing.
For example, the woman I just bought a sandwich from said 'Thanks love' when she gave me the change. I'm pretty sure she's not actually in love with me, but was just being friendly.

[ruby27]

Gromit

I thought what an interesting answer - Gromit's references are usually impeccable. I was most disappointed to read it was a slip

[ruby27]

Rtaxron

Thanks for the link

However banning sexual harrasment in the work place is a world away from likeing or disliking being called ducky pet or me luv

[ruby27]

Ludwig

Me wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My gripe with love pet etc is that men call women this, women call women and men this - but when do you get men calling other men, me love, pet lamb, me darling, gorgeous etc. If it was truly genderless then it would be just friendlness or at times to me over famililarity, but very defintely not sexist.

[ludwig]

Ruby, that's a fair point. In the midlands men call each other duck and in staffordshire 'shug' which I think is short for sugar, but I accept this is not widespread.

[Quinlad]

I think calling someone 'love' is fine. I certainly don't mind a woman saying it to me. It's on a par with calling someone 'mate'.

I can't stand being called 'Sir' though.

[China Doll]

My friend calls his mate sweetheart and his mate calls my friend darling. I believe there is some story to this but if you ask they get all male conspiracy type over it and start laughing like bevis and butt head and giving each other knowing looks. I'd worry but their respective partners don't seem to mind.

Amonst my nicknames I have Leggy, Baby and Gobby. (You can probably guess which I'm called most) I don't mind, they're all terms of endearment which stem from aspects of my personality rather than being particularly partornising as they might seem.

I'm actually one of the worst people for calling my friends and family pet names as it goes, I do it on here too I'm sure. I quite like it myself actually, doesn't relaly bother me unless someone is doing it to try and patronise me, and even then I find it more funny than owt else.

I don't like being wolf whistled at because I don't really like that sort of attention but also I think I'm classed as too old for it now anyway so hey ho... there goes that minor ego boost :c)