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Just had a phone call from my niece
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She is a recovering alcoholic and wants to come out today for a chat - apparently it's something she has to do ??? I hate these situations and never know how to handle them - any ideas ?
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If it was me Peri - i would listen to her, be non-judgemental, offer support and friendship and basically just be there for her. She is obviously trying to get herself back in a stable way of being and it sounds like she is trying to build up her self-esteem and social skills and that will be important to her. Just be the lovely auntie you are...'nuff said!
She has become a lovely person now but was a complete user - her mother - my sister is a bit of a user too and they both dragged out of me during a time when I took most responsibility for my over bearing mother - had 3 small kids - and was in constant pain - I would prefer that to be forgotten and left in the past and just move on as I don't want to be straight with her about how I used to feel
If she is ona programme then it could be something she has to do for this, face anyone she beleives she may have hurt / angered / upset or affected in any way when she was reliant on alcohol.
Just listen to what she has to say, be yourself, and let her know you appreciate it's a hard thing to do.
Good luck x
Just listen to what she has to say, be yourself, and let her know you appreciate it's a hard thing to do.
Good luck x
http://en.wikipedia.o...i/Twelve-step_program
Sounds like it step 8 or 9.............
Well done to her.
You don't have to pull your punches ..............and it may help you both move forwards if you are (brutally) honest. Then you can seek to close a door on it all :o)
Sounds like it step 8 or 9.............
Well done to her.
You don't have to pull your punches ..............and it may help you both move forwards if you are (brutally) honest. Then you can seek to close a door on it all :o)