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_sophie_ | 19:39 Sun 20th Feb 2011 | Relationships & Dating
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Hate to admit that i'm falling into this 'teenage boy trouble' phase and when i'm older i'll see it was all nonsense and i have much more important things to worry about but nevertheless i am falling into it! Before i start just to let you know this all relates to me going to watch my brothers rugby game every saturday so i see these people every week. Sorry in advance for the length of this!!
Guy No.1) He's new on the team. Last week he smiled at me, like a big 'hello nice to meet you, i want to get to know you' smile. I half smiled back as i thought he was just being friendly. This week, we stayed in the clubhouse for a few drinks after and the players come in to get their food. He sat right next to me, when he could of sat one up as there was a spare seat there. I was playing with my dog at the time. He smiled again, tried to stroke her too, but she is shy so turned away. He laughed and said 'she can probably smell my black labrador too'. Is something going on or am i taking this too far? He is the only player that spoke to me, or my family that i don't know.
Guy No.2) Me and sister were at gym. Recognized he had a strip of the rugby club on. He kept smiling at us, so we sort of smiled back. He added my sister on facebook, but not me. Next time we saw him at the gym he came up to us, and spoke to my sister for a bit then to me he said 'are you sisters?' we said yes and he was like 'no way, one of you has blond hair and one of you has dark hair!'. Thats the only convo i had with him. Why hasn't he added me?!!? Does he like my sister? After the game this week he spoke to my family and we said well done for scoring, he just said thanks, it was nice small talk. I don't know but i just feel i have no confidence to speak up because i'm not sure if he;s more interested in my sister so i feel like i'm just a tag-along kind of thing.
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Ask them both out for a drink/coffee/whatever you crazy kids do and get on with it... No point in dragging the whole thing out when you can know in seconds.
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Guy No. 3) Biggie, i love this guy!! I thought i saw him looking at me and thats what triggered it off. Like, i love him he has a great personality, and we have the same sense of humour (i know because i have seen him comment on peoples facebook although his is private). At the game this week he saw me when he was getting his food, but when he sat down he sat a couple away from us. Did he just want to be with his friends? I know it's stupid but i felt kind of bummed. We didn;t exchange looks at all and i'm just feeling a bit like he;s not interested. I don't know what to do to catch his eye again. What;s going on with him?!

I don't know, i also just feel like i have no confidence with guys so can't even get started. Hahaha just realised this is turnign into such a 'teenage' post! Sorry!!!
Same advice as before. Even if all 3 reject you, you will learn that the sun still rises, the world still turns and nothing much changes. Confidence winner all round.
Gawd the hormones are running rampant - as china says invite them out for a coffee or something, somewhere public and then see who you like the most.....
1) probably interested
2) prefers your sister (sorry)
3) hard to tell. Start a conversation with him yourself and see what happens.
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I already guessed no.2 liked my sister haha! I'm fine with it, i just feel like i'm in the way kind of and now find it uneasy to speak to him because i feel like he doesn't want to... i dunno!
For no.3 i just feel like i'm making a fool out of myself to start talking to him. First of all, my brother would always be there so he'd be like errr what are you doing?! And secondly.. it's not exactly the time and place to do that. I've never been in a situation to speak to him
Sophie, stop trying to read too much into where people sit and 'looks'. The best thing you can do is get to know these 3 as people, become friends with them and then see how you/they feel. You don't really know them and they don't really know you so while there may be a physical attraction it's unlikely to go anywhere if you're strangers. I know how easy it is to get carried away with your imagination, but calm yourself down and make friends :)
Guy No 1 sounds the best bet.
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Ok i just found out no.1 has a girlfriend...?
get looking for numbers 4,5,6,7,8 & 9!
Watch out with rugby lads too because often only the very nicest, most intelligent and often baldiest are trustworthy!!

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