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[_josie_]

I found out my boyfriend uses internet porn. how should i have felt, is it ok for him to carry on using it. i want to be fair, but i don't feel good enough for him now. i got angry at him. was that a bad idea? this whole thing has been bugging me for ages. he didn't tell me, i found out about it. What would you do/think if you were me? thanx...

[smorodina]

The trouble with internet porn is that it throws itself at you. Try searching for mp3s and see what you get. If he is deliberately searching for porn, you should try to get him to break the habit, because it can take over. Also, you shouldn't feel that you're not good enough for him - men are very visually orientated and will always look at an appealing woman, but this is not because the one they are with is not enough for them. If everything else in the relationship is good, you probably shouldn't let this spoil it, but if this is only symptomatic of other problems perhaps the relationship is in trouble.

[couchy]

Depends on the content and his reaction to your feelings. Find something you can look at together?

[sep41999]

Look at yourself and pull yourself together! Everyone looks at Porn!

[lkn2cln22]

I kinda agree with couchy.Is it that he is hiding it or that he is looking at it all? Think of it like this... Atleast he's not out getting it somewhere else.The internet porn I feel is pretty harmless.Try looking at it with him you might find it is not so bad.You two could learn something to spice up your relationship.Atleast give it a try for his sake.

[jno]

He may just have kept it secret because he thought you would react the way you have and didn't want to hurt you or get into an argument about it. It doesn't necessarily mean he isn't satisfied with you... though it may do.

You should probably both sit down and discuss what you feel about sex and what you want from it. If you're just embarrassed at the idea that some people do this sort of thing in front of a camera, you may have to accept that other people do things differently from you. If your boyfriend is getting off on stuff that really disgusts you, then maybe he is the wrong person for you. Does he simply want sex at times when you don't? These are all things that couples have to consider. Your own response, of anger, is fair enough, but maybe you'll feel differently once you've heard his side of the story, and maybe he will too.