Theprof, You appear to miss the point - lengthily! - again. Were I writing a paper for the academic Fellows at my ancient college, I would, of course, refer to "the OED" with regard to the dictionary. However, here on AnswerBank, not everyone has an academic background or any familiarity with that publication. Accordingly, it seemed to me appropriate here to use the TOED abbreviation - not acronym, as Stewey points out - for two reasons...
a. It makes it abundantly clear that I am referring not just to any Oxford publication but to the grand-daddy of them all
b. it makes more sense - here - to abbreviate The Oxford English Dictionary as TOED, given that I have invariably just written these four words. (Whether the word 'the' is part of the title or not is an irrelevance, given that it is always included in the name.)
I am not in the least surprised that no librarian has heard of TOED. As already pointed out to you, it is my version and used only here! Why would they have heard of it?
I do have access to the online dictionary.
I said TOED was "more of an abbreviation", not "less of an acronym".
And there I for one shall leave the matter. Life really is too short.