You were wrong in the first place when you said that the probability is 1 in 3. Just because there are three possibilities (2 boys, 2 girls, 1 of each) does not mean that those three possibilities are equally likely. It would be just as logical to say that there are 2 possibilities (same, different) or that there are 4 possibilities (boy-boy, boy-girl,girl-boy, girl-girl) or that there are 2 possibilities (2 boys, not-2-boys). To work out the probability of each thing happening, you have to work out the individual events which make up the combined event. The possibility of "one of each" is actually two possibilities combined (boy-girl,girl-boy). The possibility of "not-2-boys" is actually 3 possibilities combined. In this case, there are actually 4 possibilities with a 1-in-4 chance of each.