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Snobbery
I received a phone call earlier, in which my youngest sister accused me of being aloof and ashamed of my background because I refuse to visit her in Hackney.
We have very different memories of the place and whereas she adores the vibrancy and spirit of the streets, I remember the grime and crime that plagued the first 18 years of my life.
She ran with a wild, drug fuelled crowd, while I studied at home, virtually friendless and hiding from bullies who ridiculed my titian hair, my height. (I was 6' tall at 14) and even my passivity.
I'm now sitting with a cup of tea, enjoying watching my daughters throwing nuts to a squirrel in the garden and remembering just how much I hated Hackney.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of culture clash within their own family and how do you handle it?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I have a similar problem to you. I am male, and have a sister 2 years younger than me.
I have always been keen to better myself, and I have a good job and own my own house (mortgage paid off).
My sister has never had any ambitions, she lives in a council house in a poor area in North London. She has married twice and both men were wasters.
But she is happy where she is, and I am happy where I am.
I have no wish to visit her house, or see her husband.
If we were not brother and sister I doubt if we would ever become friends. We keep a respectful distance.
Sounds as though you and your sister have the same 'problem'.
Dont let her bring you down because you have tried to better yourself and move on, while she has not.
We are all different.
Best of luck.
Sounds like Lore is right. But are you guys still a little bit insecure about yourselves? A bit worried that if you even walk through the mean streets back there you'll suddenly be whisked back into a life of horror? Or is it more specifically that there are particular people - family perhaps - you never want to run into again? No cure for the latter, I don't think, but if it's just the former, you might be pleasantly surprised to go back there and see how far you've managed to progress.
But having said that... if you just hate the place, no, you don't have to go there. That isn't snobbery, it's just following your heart.