What makes you dislike someone??

[joko]

What makes you dislike someone most on first impressions?

We all look at people and after a short time of meeting them, we judge them - some we, often irrationally, decide we don't like - others we let get away with all sorts of bad behaviour but still like them - why?

Be honest!

Is it that they SEEM Bossy? Pushy? Hyperactive? Nosy? Argumentative? Opinionated? Their looks? Shiftyness? Untrustworthy? Don't look you in the eye? In a dream world? Flighty? Shady? Domineering? Too talkative? Tactless? B*tchy? Arrogant? False? Too smiley? Stares wide-eyed at you when talking? Fake smile? Body odour? Boring? Moaner? Immature? Their opinions? Sneery? Looks down on other people? Puts foot in it? Too honest? Rambles? Goes of on tangents? Because others appear not to like them and we just follow?.....

Is it about charisma? We all know about the lovable rogue... or the good guy who gets the raw deal... Often they really they don't deserve it if we really think about it?

What is it about them, however minor, that rubs you up the wrong way?

[rampart]

A mean face.

[Kirki]

for me i instantly dislike someone who obviously loves themselves and someone who thinks they are better than you (e.g. those show off types who open their car door 20 feet before they reach the car and then look at you as if to say 'did you see that')

[joko]

how do you mean rampart? down turned mouth? pointed eyebrows?

sometimes these things are natural shapes of faces and don't reflect the real person at all...

or is it a pinched expression? crinkles round the nose? frown lines?

[andy-hughes]

I don't 'instantly dislike' anyone.

I do form instant impressions which can be negative, that's human nature, but I make a serious effort to overide them, and get a proper impression of a new person based on concersation and reaction, rather tnah animal instinct, which is often wrong.

For example - I would natrually not take to any young man who wears a cap, drives fast, has earings, and a local accent. My oldest daughter's partner has all of these, and he's the nicest kindest most loyal hardworking guy you could meet, so I;m glad i didn't let my initial impressions cloud my judgement, and more importatnly, didn't let either of them know how i felt. They've been together over five years, and have a lovely son to go with my beautiful grand-daughter - how much could i have missed by giving in to my first thoughts.

[sammd]

I agree with Kirki - people who love themselves, especially blokes who think they're God's gift to women. Also people who talk down to you and b*tchy girls aren't pleasant either.

[tigerthecat]

Right - wingers.

[Steb]

Anyone who is too loud or comes across as being overly confident.

Right-wingers (with one or two notable exceptions)

People who talk to me on trains.

I especially hate really loud Daily Mail readers who talk to me on trains

[Drusilla]

People who don't look me in the eye and smile when we shake hands on a first meeting.

[dotjhawkes]

Blokes who dress badly and look like they need help.

[justineo]

Like Druisilla, if somebody doesn't look me in the eye I feel they may have something to hide but I've also been wrong with first impressions and have a close friend of 15 years who I disliked when we first met. Sometimes it can be something that you just feel about a person. I don't normally mind if someone puts their arm around me or gives me a hug but there are some people who make me feel uncomfortable for no apparent reason.

[joko]

justineo - thats what i mean. what is it that causes this irrational feeling, which sometimes goes away, but often it doesn't and that person has really done nothing wrong - just gave you a bad 'vibe'... its so wrong... but we can't help it! and some people don't realise its irrational and actively express a dislike - often in a puerile way - like a shrug or shiver or a bleurgh noise when asked why they don't like someone...

[flip-flop]

Left wingers who aren't prepared to accept any others opinion other than their own - that's pretty much all of them then.

Moustaches.

Guardian readers - (as an aside, why isn't there an outcry that pretty much every job in the BBC is advertised in the Guardian???).

[littlemissx]

arrogance!!!

sometimes i just get the feeling that somethings not quite right and it then takes alot for me to change my opinion on them. i know its wrong to do that as sometimes i cant even pinpoint the reason i dont trust them.

[joko]

RuntButtock - er...thanks for that eloquent 'answer' - how we larfed... (*yawn*)

I'll bet oscar wilde is crapping himself with a master wit like you on the scene!

and by the way 'he' is a 'she'

[lb24]

Smoking would put me off a bloke.

[Dagman]

I think we sometimes see qualities in people we've seen before and relate to that, I often find mannerisms repeated in others and relate them to other people with the same. It's a rough guide but more often right than wrong when judging.

[Cmitchell]

That annoying s*** at night school. Thinks the lesson revolves around him, his questions and his job. He persistently interupts the lecturer, with questions often not direcly relating to the topic of the moment. Grrr. Wish he'd crawl back under the bl**dy rock he came from.

M

[flip-flop]

Anybody who doggedly persists in the ridiculous assertion that Nadia, the Desparate Dan look-a-like from Big Brother is a woman.

Chopping a dogs nuts off does not make it a bitch.