What's wrong with me?

[beenee]

Ok, Im a very lively person, can make good conversation and am pretty nice to look at. Then why do I always feel rejected when I go up to a random guy for a chat? I always feel like he wants to move on, (and he usually does after a polite while). Is that me coming on too strong? Should I stop being matey (cos, I do tend to be too 'friendly' friendly) and start a whole coy, flirtatious female act? I dont know what Im doing wrong. I dont know what guys want. Please help!

[sft42]

i don't know what's up but i have to say i like the sound of the coy flirtatious act. if you haven't met anybody by the time the convention rolls around how about we give it a go??

[beenee]

hahaha! cute. Any ideas for the cold winter though? :o)

[andy hughes]

Without meetring you beenee, it's hard to guage what the problem is, if indeed there is one! It may be that you are a little 'full-on' in your approach, which can intimidate people. Why not try a different approach - instead of telling your conversational partner about yourself, why not ask him about himself? People love to talk about themselves, but try not to make into an inquisition. Fish around for something he is obviously interested in, and follow that line of conversation, but don't fake interest, people spot it a mile away. Be genuinely interested, and give a little information, and if you are interested, smile, and be friendly, but not too friendly. Try that, and see how it goes. Good luck.

[kahunabean]

sounds like garlic to me......

[sft42]

three stars! why thank you beenee(blush). well never mind the guys round your way you've caught my eye and i'm looking forwaard to seeing you at the convention. Better hurry up TW and flirty or we might beat you down the aisle haha!

[beenee]

I'd appreciate some female views on this... kahunabean - I smell very nice thankyouverymuch sft42 - *hugs* for the ego boosts...

[kahunabean]

i was only kidding beenee. ;-)

[ravenhair]

I am female, but don't think I can offer you much help as men and their little ways are just a mystery to me half the time . . . except Mr Ravenhair, but that's taken years of training :-) All I can say is, don't put on an act, especially a coy, flirtatious one, as there's nothing more annoying in a woman. Maybe if you recognize in yourself that you're being "too friendly", you should be a little more subtle about things, but there's nothing wrong with approaching men to have a friendly chat . . . you sound fine to me. Sorry I can't be of much help.

[honkytonkman]

Hmm.. perhaps you are approaching the wrong type of guy. Some of we males are still very much cavemen and a confident woman with her own views can intimidate. Try fewer meathead guys and aim for perhaps more bookish types, who would welcome an intelligent chat .

[sft42]

Thank you Beenee for the autograph answer. I am a semi-pro musician but a long way from being famous (sorry no hollywood premiers) and thinking more about your question the answer must be to relax and ejoy the company of the person you are with and make sure your totally happy with who you are. self doubt and worries will show up in a tense situation try to relax an enjoy life. oh yeah thank bobbobbley still working on your request and trying to find a way to get some tunes to you, and hands off albert i saw her first :>)

[beenee]

Thanks for the comments. I've decided to put it down to me going for the wrong guys. I'm at uni - how amazing do I expect them to be anyway? Thanks all :o)