I think possibly the use of the phrase 'a bit of gayness in them' sends people off down the wrong mental image path. As I man, I am able to see the sexual attraction of other men to women, but I do not feel that sexual attraction myself. Maybe it is the increasingly acknolwledged ability to recognise this facet of attraction, and to acknowledge it, that leads to this confusion. I often say that this man, or that man, is attractive, but I never feel the need to preface that observation with "I'm not gay or anything but ..." because i tyake that as a given. That said, I acknowledge that I am more than averagely sure of myself, and not at all bothered by what people think. However, i do think that people are mor comfortable discussing sexuality in general terms, and that can only be a good thing for everyone.