Is it appropriate to comment on this

[hc4361]

from a society and culture point of view?

http://www.dailymail....neral-procession.html

Dreadful that the girl has been murdered but I hate this sort of funeral.

[hc4361]

Boo, nobody knows until the trial but I think she is charged with either aiding and abetting murder, or perverting the course of justice - covering up for the boyfriend.

[dotty.]

probably paid for by a newspaper, the funeral grant is about £2000 i think plus expenses

[jno]

jsut trying to offer a little light relief on a painful subject, excel, no personal offence intended; sorry.

[bibblebub]

Decorum disappeared from public behaviour and vocabulary a long time ago.

[askyourgran]

Very sad, and very tacky.

I'll provide the handbag girls.

[maggiebee]

I too hate this kind of funeral, rather tacky, but each to his own. Found it amusing that the report said "Floral tribute: A floral horse's head complete with pink bridal".
Should that have not been bridle?

[mrs_overall]

Excelsior, if you want me to do the catering for your funeral that's fine. I'll do appropriate food, starting perhaps with cocktail sausages

[joko]

what many view as 'traditional' funerals are really just the fashions of the past, just what people liked and wanted then - they are not rules or 'correct procedures' - its just what people did

times change and so do people, and people can do whatever they like for a funeral.

i wouldnt waste your energy hating it - i am sure they couldnt care less how you feel about it.

[hc4361]

Joko, times change but people don't. There has always been dignified funerals and showy funerals.

I very much dislike showy funerals. In this example the lorry driver couldn't even be bothered to remove the 'Try a game bird' sticker from his back window, which unfortunately is alongside the photo of Tia Sharpe.

I wouldn't be surprised if this demonstration of grief is the most attention this girl has ever received from her parents.

[ll_billym]

I noticed the stickers too, very prominent in the photo but maybe not from most angles.

[modeller]

I spent years working in big council estates and it was there that they had the biggest funerals and weddings.

[Duncer]

"Eddie, awful awful comment! My God, my toes are curling just reading it!"

Why? I'd love to know how they afforded it.

hc4361 - probably spot on when you say "I wouldn't be surprised if this demonstration of grief is the most attention this girl has ever received from her parents." We'll never know though?

[hc4361]

I expect the florists enjoyed it.

[bednobs]

having had to have 2 funerals for my children, i have to say there is a huge temptation to think the more money you spend, the more you are showing how much you loved them. Perhaps it's why it seems so over the top. With the whole country commenting on her and the manner of her death, the temptation must have been great to show no restraint whatsoever, to "prove" that they loved her

[askyourgran]

Good point bednobs.

[hc4361]

bednobs, sorry to hear that, but that is a true reflection of society.
Big showy weddings, stupidly expensive school proms, stag and hen dos that are now a week's holiday abroad.
Constant pressure to prove how much you care.

[bednobs]

i know it's nothing to do with a funeral but i asked mr 'nobs to buy a candle holder so we could light it if we wanted to feel close to them. He spent all day shopping looking for one and eventually came home with a hurricane lamp type thing that was about four times the size of the babies put together! He really felt that because it came from john lewis and was big and expensive that it represented how he felt, that they "deserved" something expensive. bless him!!

[Jeza]

I believe funerals are for the living, not the dead.

[bednobs]

yikes, i would hope i had already died before they have my funeral jeza!

[naomi24]

I prefer something rather less ostentatious, but people have their own ideas about funerals. I know someone who had all the flowers – wreaths included – brought home afterwards – and she laid them out in her living room and hall - because she didn’t want them to go to waste. :o/