What is wrong with some people?

[Captaincrunch]

Me and missus were invited to a friend of hers and at some point i wanted to use the toilet so was pointed upstairs. As i walked upstairs i heard "WAIT!" and he friend came running past me and closed the bedroom door and apologised before scurrying back downstairs. My missus later told me that she's just private.

To be honest as i walked to the toilet i glanced at the bedroom and carried on to the toilet before the friend came sprinting up the stairs and it looked clean, basic and there didn't appear to be anything embarrassing but then i only glanced.

This has led me to this question, why oh why are people happy for you to come into their homes, see their kitchens, living rooms, bathrooms but yet are embarrassed to show them what usually is the best looking room in the house?

Example- "Hello ( Insert friends name here ), i'm happy for you to see where i relax, where we eat, where we relieve our bodily fluids/solids but we just can't have anyone see where we sleep!"

^See how ridiculous that sounds?

personally i'm proud of my bedroom and after the downstairs tour i'm more than happy to show everyone my bedroom where the magic happens.

Are you one of these people that are ashamed of showing people your bedroom, if so why and do you let guests into other parts of your home where embarrassment isn't an issue?

[2sp_]

For me, it's more that my bedroom is my personal space. Only Mr P is allowed in there - mostly on sufferance too. I don't even let the kids in.

[coccinelle]

Maybe the bed wasn't made, maybe there were clothes out of the wardrobe, maybe something just hadn't been put back which she didn't want you to see. But I do know some people like to keep things private and in this person's mind she doesn't want to share her bedroom with anybody else but whoever. I know someone who won't let anybody go into his study; his wife is allowed to dust and hoover now and again because she wants to and this is something he 'tolerates'.

[MarkRae]

I think the private space answer is correct. Visitors don't get into my bedroom either unless they are a) there for the obvious or b) my cleaner.

[EcclesCake]

Seems rather prudish, presumably they have sex only in the bedroom hence the coyness ;-)

[snags]

''where the magic happens''

Have you got Debbie Mcgee tied up in there?

[chrissa1]

I can remember a time when, if you were invited to a party, you were asked to take your coats up to the main bedroom, where you could check your hair and makeup before joining the assembled guests.

[Mamyalynne]

Spend half my life trying to get someone in mine .:-)

[ummmm]

I wouldn't care.

[chrissa1]

You don't let the kids in 2sp? Why on earth not?

[ummmm]

I never used to let my kids in either. Different now they are older.

[chrissa1]

Aw, that's really sad. No snuggles in the morning at the weekend then? With the kids I mean.

[LazyGun]

Given how popular 50 shades was, it could just be that a large proportion of the population have taken to recreating the red room of pain, or however it was described?

It is a potential minefield for embarassment - all those whips, clamps and other assorted fetish paraphinalia carelessly left out in the open :)

[tamborine]

I dont want whips & handcuffs nicked

[The Builder]

As someone who has had access to many, many bedrooms (professionally speaking)... I can tell you that most are quite mundane. There have been exceptions however .................

[2sp_]

My bedroom is the one place I escape them!

I never went into my parents' bedroom either.

[aelmpvw]

perhaps it was the used condom on the duvet

[ummmm]

It's not sad. They were kissed and cuddled all the time, just not in my bed.

[2sp_]

I second that, ummmm.

[joko]

i dont think that many people are like that really - but maybe she had sex toys, lingerie, dirty knickers etc that she didnt want you to see

maybe there wasnt any, but at that moment maybe she wasnt sure what shed left out

why do you care though? surely if she wants it private then so be it... not sure why you view it as a fault...


i have never understood people who feel the need to give you 'the tour' of their house... i dont mind it of course, and have no issue with it - whatever makes you happy - just not sure why people do it.
unless its of show home standard and amazing, then not sure of the point of being shown round - except to know where the loo is etc

it would not occur to me to do it really.

[Sammy48]

she should have closed or pulled the bedroom door to, if she knew she had friends coming round and didnt want anyone to look into the bedroom. I think thats quite rude to rush up the stairs and close the door while you are standing there. Silly woman.