What Is This About?

[FrillyPancake]

Right do tell me what this means guys...

I went on a holiday of a lifetime with my husband just recently, which was particularly out of this world.
A few different places were visited, so lots of fun memories and lovely experiences.

I work in an office type environment, which consists of 8 people so we all work quite closely. When I arrived back all of them bar 2 asked if I had a nice time, asked all about it, and went through my pictures etc.

The other 2 haven't even acknowledged that I was even away, not a peep - not a did you enjoy? Would you recommend? Was it all it was cracked up to be?

I am the type of person who wouldn't hesitate to ask this of any colleague, regardless of how "close" we were.

Is it just me, or do you think the same (perhaps jealousy?)
My husband thinks this is the case (although he doesn't know any of them - never met any of them), I am unsure however and it would've just been nice had they asked?

Is it just today's society? Has anyone else experienced this or similar?

Small minded people, this is all I can think....certain human behaviour never fails to disappoint me.

[crisper]

Hello frilly...I'm on hols at the mo.. here in Corfu... there are 6 of us at work...4 of them wished me a nice holiday..one didn't...my boss...she probably won't ask me how it was when I get back..it's been fab btw..we come home on thursday ..doesn't worry me...in fact.. I couldn't give a tooting rats ass !!!. Lol as others here have said..don't let it worry you or spoil your lovely holiday memories

[kvalidir]

I think it would have been good manners to show an interest. I was talking to a girl over the weekend about her career in modelling and looking at her online portfolio with her. I wasn't particularly interested but small things make a difference to people's day and the way you are perceived and she was nice and I think it was the polite things to do.
I have noticed that if you're happy / in love /go somewhere nice / have something nice happen to you etc etc you'll always get the disinterested / slightly snarky / very snarky / downright rude contingent, so I tend not to share things anymore for exactly that reason even though most people are pure lovely.
Don't let them worry you, it says more about them than you x

[naomi24]

I guess they're not interested.

[Ken4155]

Other people's holidays absolutely bore me to death. Especially when you've already heard them telling others about it - i.e. in the pub/office etc. Kinda makes you feel you've been on the holiday with them. If they are not curious about your hols, why does this upset you? A little ego deflation, maybe?

[Theland]

Didn't you send a postcard, "Wish you were here," and bring back bars of rock?

[maggiebee]

Nothing more boring than looking at other folk's holiday snaps. Glad you enjoyed your break though.

[naomi24]

I agree with Ken. I never understand why people think others (especially those who post half their life history on line) are interested in what they're doing. I'm not.

[Ellipsis]

Why don't you ask them? There could be lots of reasons. For example, things may have happened in their personal lives while you were away, things that are occupying their thoughts and setting their moods. Or they may want to experience some of the places you've been for themselves, and don't want to "spoil" the surprises (some people are like that). Or they may simply be on the miserable git spectrum and, like some on this thread, happy to admit it - personally, I'd be interested whether you had a nice time but horrified at the idea of going through your holiday snaps at work!!! That's just alien to me ... the very idea that you would even bring them in for me to look at. People are different, is the point.

> Small minded people, this is all I can think.

That could be very harsh. For example, look at this story on the BBC today - https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/blogs-trending-45558344 - it's a great example of how knowing the other person's situation can help you to see their actions in a different light.

[margarettom]

I don't like holidays and don't take them, but I always make an effort to listen to my friends talking about their holidays. But for people I just worked with no. The problem is, if you just say " hope you had a good holiday ", it can open the floodgates, so maybe this is why your colleagues just said nothing.

[Old_Geezer]

Some people aren't going to be interested in your holiday. I don't see why they should be berated for minding their own business.

[Cloverjo]

Do you always ask them about their weekends? Do they tell you what they did? They probably just want to get on with their work, rather than bother you with questions when they've already seen you tell the rest of the office about your holiday.

Don't worry about it.

[Bazile]

I guess if your'e just curious as to the lack of interest , then that's understandable .

However if it's occupying your thoughts , in excess of curiosity , then i would try and forget it

[tamborine]

to ask associates of their holidays would invite acres of views, images of meals, painted toenails on beach beds etc - definite nausea at sliding thru cell images.

[bednobs]

Perhaps you are one of those people who bore on about your holiday. Maybe you *** them off about it before u even went I can't even bear to look at my families holiday snaps. I do realise it's a bit anti social so my strategy now is to ask the person what their very best thing was. Then you jut have to listen to 30 minutes worth

[woofgang]

I am glad its not just me

[FrillyPancake]

I'm very much the type of person who would've just said "it was great thanks" - no more no less.
As I said it's nice to be nice.

And I deliberately didn't go on about it before I left, as didn't want to sound like I WAS GOING ON!
Was buzzing inside though, and as I say had a brilliant time, and spoke to those who wanted to listen as and when I got asked to tell them when I got back.
Nice to be nice is all.

[bednobs]

people who go on about their holidays often do not know or are not aware that they are going on

[FrillyPancake]

You don't know me from Adam bedN
With all due respect, I respect people enough to not do these things/be in their face etc with my life - it's my life after all, without others trying to assume that I do.
I didn't go on, I didn't even tell half the people on the site until the day I was finishing up. Most were more pleased than me to "share" FAR more than even I was prepared to - in actual fact.
Some people are just weird.
I'm not as others say letting this spoil my memories, as I said, nice to be nice. I've since moved on with my lovely memories and these people will never get any good regard from me as I'm all of a sudden not really interested lol.
Interesting to hear everyone's point's of view however.

[Peter Pedant]

keep a good store of your good memories and holidays

half the people on this thread sound as tho - - they work in your office!

[Baldric]

I wonder why you have to call them 'Small minded' just because you weren't the centre of their Universe for a short time?
Sounds to me like they're happy to come in and do their jobs and be sociable but are just not interested in discussing the details of other peoples lives, your holiday, not theirs.