Parcel Delivery Etiquette

[Treacle71]

Hi. I keep taking in parcels for my neighbour - more so me than they do for me. Royal Mail/courier tells me they'll put a note in their door to let them know their parcels are with me. However, they (neighbours)never knock on my door to collect them from me and I usually have to take them to them, even if it's the next day, as I usually wait for them to come to me. Who, really, should knock first when it comes to matters as these?

[barry1010]

They should come to you - you are not a delivery person nor should they expect you to know when they are home.

[Redhelen72]

If they have put a note on their door without your permission, then you need to explain that the parcels are upsetting your mother.

[Hopkirk]

They have got used to you doing their running around. Just stop and wait for them to come to you.

[barry1010]

Have I missed something? When I am asked to take a parcel in for a neighbour, if I agree the delivery persons tells me they will put a note through the neighbour's letterbox to let them know where the parcel is. I thought this is what Treacle meant.
Is Treacle's mother being upset?

[bhg481]

RH - your post confuses me. Nobody mentioned a mother getting upset. On the occasions we take a parcel in for a neighbour the courier/postman asks if we'll take it and then goes back to the neighbour's house to put a card through the door saying where their delivery is.

[THECORBYLOON]

The neighbours won't know if you're in or no when the deliveries are attempted so refuse the next few if you want.

You shouldn't need to be looking out for them to know you can give them the parcels, let them come to you.

[barry1010]

On the few occasions a parcel hasn't been collected promptly I have either phoned my neighbour or knocked on the door and asked them to collect it NOW.
It only ever happens once with each neighbour, they know I am neither a delivery person nor a storage facility.

[douglas9401]

From what I read I'm very lucky to have the neighbours that I do.

[calmck]

I would not accept parcels for a while. Tell the driver no

[Bazile]

Sounds as if you're being taken advantage of .

Just refuse to take any more parcels

[Redhelen72]

Isn’t treacle the poster with issues with her mum? Treacle also works 4 days a week ergo the chances are her mum takes in the parcel .
Sorry if I have posters mixed uo

[Hymie]

[Hopkirk]

Personally I happily take parcels to them. It promotes good relations with them.

[bhg481]

It worries me not one jot either way. If I take a parcel in and happen to see the neighbour's car return, I take it over; if I happen not to see it they come over. The reverse is true if I have a package left elsewhere although, in that case, I do make a point of watching for their return.

[naomi24]

//From what I read I'm very lucky to have the neighbours that I do. //

Me too. It wouldn't occur to me to ask this question - or to refuse to take a parcel.

[Prudie]

That's also my understanding RH of Treacle's living and working pattern so not sure when you are in to take parcels Treacle but I don't think we can give some blanket answer to this situation. It depends on circumstances.
Before covid and working from home my neighbours were always taking in parcels for us. A card wasn't always left so sometimes they would bring them round when we got back from work.
Maybe these neighbours are elderly or have mobility problems, in that case I'd expect ABers to be happy to take their parcels round.

[Bazile]

I draw the line at taking in fridge freezers and other white goods

[Redhelen72]

Just a thought posties don’t always put a card through the door especially if there is a note about leaving it next door.
So perhaps they don’t know you have parcels for them

[rowanwitch]

Depends on the size of the parcel. I did get irritated when a box the size of a washing machine arrived when they were on holiday, nowhere to put it where it wasn't in the way. Small stuff if I hear them come home, (no way of seeing in flats) I give it half an hour then take it round. No one takes mine in, two of the three neighbours are unable to get to the door and the other one is at work all day.

[Treacle71]

I've no idea, barry1010, what this question has to do with my mother either. Shrugs.