Update on racist neighbours

[Sonak]

The other day I walked passed the racist neighbors with their son and somenthing told me to look back and thats when I say the son sticking his middle finger at me.
I stopped in shock & he shouted 'can I help you'! I just walked off.

Last night the boy went to our nighbours on the other side of us and I was upstairs when I heard some noises and looked out of the window to witness the neighbours sister throw a piece of chocolate at out window which made a loud noise! The boy with the girl ran in!
I ran downstairs where my partner was already at the door as he heard the noise, I went out & picked the chocolate & went next door where the kids all stood in the doorway with the adult neighbour and shouted I didn't do it!!! I said, I just saw ............. throw this piece of chocolate at our house & dropped the chocolate on the floor. They didn't say anything just laughed when I walked away.

This is so petty I know but we can't take much more of this!

[fagidill]

move

[garner]

Just ignore, all the trouble and strife people are going through in this world and you are getting upset by some chocolate.Try and live in peace and just ignore these silly things as they know they are getting to you.g.

[123everton]

Keep a record of the incidents, keep offering polite resistance, keep informing the Police, keep telling the housing association (if applicable) if after 6 months it's still going on complain to the local paper. Apply for harrassment status so you can be rehoused quickly (if that's what you want) although personally they're the ones who should be forced to leave.
Sorry Garner but you're way off the mark, it may only be a bar of chocolate but it was thrown at the window, to have things thrown at your home is thouroughly unpleasant. Home is supposed to be your sanctuary, an oasis of peace in a chaotic world.
Your neighbours sound awful, you can't appease such people or make them understand (you can't polish a turd) you can beat some of them up, they'll understand that, but I don't think you're that kind of person.

[wildwood]

Are you sure they are racist? Just because you are a different colour/race may not be they cause of their unsocial behaviour. Try to ignore it. If they are racist, no amount of complaining or legislation is going to change them. Think what a waste of space they are when they have nothing better to do than annoy you because you're not the same. If you let them ruin your life they are winning. It will probably annoy the hell out of them if when they finger you or make rude remarks you retort with something like "thank you, I didn't know that" and don't forget to smile at them. They might just realise they are pushing it uphill with a pointed stick and stop being complete idiots.

[123everton]

Nay nay and thrice nay.
Such people have no sense of irony or shame.
I can have a row with the likes of them (non-racist) they don't want to pay, I tell them they have to pay, they call me a whole load of filthy names and then leave. The fact that they're in the wrong does'nt register, the fact that they did'nt "win" or at least get what they wanted does'nt register. All that matters to them is that "they told him".
Another example (only yesterday) a girl of about 14 got punched several times in the head by a boy of roughly the same age (apparently for no reason) and he then walked away laughing.
I once got stuck in the middle of a knife fight this kid begged me for help, Police came he did'nt want to make a complaint, he did'nt know who they were or what it was about.
They can't be helped, and they can't be ignored.
Report and write down everything, even though they don't know it every time they do something you're getting your own back, try to view every insult as a victory.

[Sonak]

Garner - you obviously haven't been through what we have been through! My partner has been targeted because of his race and now me and the house are targets!

123everton - thanks for your reply, we have contacted the housing association & they are looking into it! Not sure what's going to happen though but its comforting to hear your sensitive comments, your what we need right now...

Wildwood - we know they are racist especially the mother who loudly & proudly made racial remarks at my partner last year. Eversince that we have been tormented and have had nothing but constant stress because of them!

[Octavius]

Whilst no doubt they have elements of racism within their angst, it would seem from all your other posts that this was quite an isolated incident and that generally they are just belligerent and rude.

Not a good place to be, but our advice remains as previously given.

[Sonak]

Well after contacting the housing association they phoned today to say that they will vist the neighbours again to discuss their son & they also said do u want to complain about the other neighbour on the other side of us (where the chocolate throwing went on).
At first my partner said no & that was that.

Then after the call I said that a letter would have been good so they would be aware of what was done, so my partner called the housing manager back reluctantly to say it would be better if a letter was set to them also. It was agreed.

After that my partner & I argued because he said we are going to be targeted even more now as both neighbours on each side are very friendly and would cause more problems so he said that I am retaliating by getting the housing manager to write a letter to them.
I explained that the neighbours need to know that this will not be tolerated, but he failed to understand my side.

Is he right? Am I causing more problems?

[123everton]

You can't make an omlette without breaking eggs.
You won't get any peace without banging heads.
You can either quietly try and ignore them, which personally I don't think will work. They'll view any passivity as a victory and may serve only to embolden them.
If the official complaint serves to escalate the problem, then in some ways this is beneficial. their defiance goes against the housing association also. Keep documenting the problems, keep offering polite resistance, if the housing officer tgives you advice follow it. When it fails (it will) go back to them and demand action.
It's not going to be easy, but then things are difficult now.

[oldgrape]

if you shout or show that ur getting upset they will continue ignore them they will soon get bored

[Sonak]

Thanks 123everton & oldgrape. Your advice and comments mean a lot, I just tell myself to keep calm and try to support and not argue with my partner even though these people are the cause! I just pray & hope we will get some sort of peace and fairness out of all this.

I don't wish this on anyone.........