How much money should I give at the wedding?

[filthiestfis]

Im going to a wedding-a Muslim wedding-next weekend, and its of a good friend. The couple have requested no boxed gifts so I take it that means they only want cash. So, what is a reasonable amount to give? �30 perhaps? Its just me going.

[know-ledge]

just you?
15 then!

[figure]

No boxed gift ... they have some nerves. Then give them a tinned gift. lol

Do they have a bridal registry?

[filthiestfis]

Nope no bridal registry. �15 seems punny to me.

[pinktwink]

maybe they are environmentalists and dont like the packaging!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

a gift without the box!!!

a voucher, prize bonds i,d say 30 or 40 is fine

[Rtaxron]

Maybe a pack of back bacon!

[stewey]

Considering the attitude which they have taken towards the 'bearing of gifts' I would not even consider attending the ceremony.

[Octavius]

�No boxed gifts� generally means cash or vouchers. I think �25-30 would be fair enough, up to about �50 if you were a couple. Whilst some may consider it rude, it is a sign of the times and not just in Muslim circles. Many people getting married now have lived together or alone for some time and often already possess most of the traditional gifts (toasters, kettles etc etc).

Asking for contributions towards setting up home together and enabling them to decorate or furnish with the proceeds, is more sensible than leaving to a chance of getting several of the same unwanted thing that would have to be returned anyway.

Personally though, I would give vouchers for a department store (John Lewis, Selfridges, Debenhams etc) rather than cash.

[Oneeyedvic]

We went to a wedding where the couple were emigrating - so obviously they did not want any gifts - we gave them �50 worth of vouchers (they were sensible enough to tell people which places would be useful for them and where they could use vouchers in Australia)

[funnygirl]

I once went to a similiar wedding and we had to pin the money in notes onto the brides dress!!

No one is looking at how much you pin on, so to make it look like a lot, take a bunch of fivers, take your time pinning them on, and folks will be thinking ooh that bloke is rich, as you are there a while pinning them on!!!!!

P.S. When I went we still had pound notes!!!! Lol.

[coco pops]

Seen as the person is a good friend i think �30 is a good.

[Beswad]

Give them �50 enclosed it with a wedding card wishing them well on their marriage.

Just think of the �50 as a contribution towards the meal you will have in the wedding.

In my opinon if I know the person well I wouldn't hesitate to give them �100 as appreciation of their friendship.

[Jenga]

�20 - �30 is sufficient

[filthiestfis]

Thanks to all of you for your suggestions. I think that I wil stick to �30 but still keen on hearing more opinions.

[Jugglering]

Just think about how much you would have spent on a gift for them, then translate that into cash. It's quite normal to give cash these days - and often of more use to the couple than yet another toaster or coffee machine.

If it was a very good mate of mine, I'd probably give �50, but that's only because I can afford that. The amount itself is not really important here, it's just that the couple are asking for no boxed gifts, which means if you want to give them a present, then they would prefer not to receive stuff like toasters, coffee machines etc.