In order for a Christian to embrace the concept of forgiveness they have to understand what the word forgive has more than one meaning. It can mean to pardon someone and it can also mean to cease to feel resentment against.
When a person commits a wrong (sin) against another person only God can say if the sin will affect that persons chance of getting the gift of everlasting life. Individual Christians have no control over this kind of forgiveness. Only God can read the heart to look for things such as genuine sorrow over what was done, motive and things like these. Because God can read even out thoughts he is qualified to decide who recieves this kind of forgiveness. It is a Christian requirement that Christians be forgiving the way God forgives us, when we are repentant and sorry.
Since humans are unable to read the hearts of others it can be very difficult to tell if someone is truly repentant and determined not to do such an offense again. We can only judge by what we see. What happens sometimes is that when someone hurts us we carry the hurt around like an open wound that is unable to heal. I say this because hurt can dominate our thoughts, even limit how we live our lives, who we love, etc. so that we can be come affected.
But if we forgive by letting go of the resentment and move forward we are truly free. Forgiveness is a gift, a freedom that we give to ourselves but it should come with some cautions. Do your best to protect yourself (peacefully) so that in the future, as far as you are concerned you never let it happen again. It's hard to call yourself a victim if you willfully allow yourself to be hurt even though it does sometimes happen.
Jesus came to let us know that God, Jehovah God loves us and that he wants us to be safe and happy. That's why he toldl us things like be cautious. "Prove yourselves cautious as serpents and yet innocent as doves." Matthew. 10:16.
This one was written before Jesus was born "Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word, but the shrewd one considers his steps." Proverbs 14:15
Christians let go of the resentment and move forward like Jesus did he did not hate his enemies yet he protected himself.
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