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How Does The Body Know It Is Time To Go?
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Two weeks ago I went to visit my oldest friend of 53 years standing. She
had been a constant through my life sharing marriage, children & grandchildren.
She was Godmother to my late son.
As we moved to different counties we did not see each other as we once had,
but remained close though letters & phone calls. I knew she had moved into a
Nursing Home but I took comfort from her cheery letters which were always
immaculately written & articulate.
As I had other personal business in South Africa I decided to arrange to visit
her and we were both excited at the prospect of seeing each other again.
When I arrived the staff told me she had spoken of nothing else for weeks and
had had her hair done that morning.
We spent a lovely few hours reminiscing and when It was time for me to go
we embraced and she said 'I've been waiting for you'
She died in her sleep that night.
The staff told me she looked serene & at peace.
How does the brain/body or whatever decide that it is the right time to go?
I'm still trying to get my head around it all.
had been a constant through my life sharing marriage, children & grandchildren.
She was Godmother to my late son.
As we moved to different counties we did not see each other as we once had,
but remained close though letters & phone calls. I knew she had moved into a
Nursing Home but I took comfort from her cheery letters which were always
immaculately written & articulate.
As I had other personal business in South Africa I decided to arrange to visit
her and we were both excited at the prospect of seeing each other again.
When I arrived the staff told me she had spoken of nothing else for weeks and
had had her hair done that morning.
We spent a lovely few hours reminiscing and when It was time for me to go
we embraced and she said 'I've been waiting for you'
She died in her sleep that night.
The staff told me she looked serene & at peace.
How does the brain/body or whatever decide that it is the right time to go?
I'm still trying to get my head around it all.
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I believe that normal stress keeps you alive. It's a driving force that keeps the adrenalin flowing. Once you reach a state of contentment the body starts to close down and if that coincides with old age or ill health it switches off. It's a bit like waking up from a deep sleep and feeling all sluggish. You have two choices , roll over for another hour or get up and go for a good walk. You know which one brings you alive.
A lovely, moving story.
I loved that she had her hair done.
I think you rather understated the stressful nature
of your trip when I was concerned about your absence
from our site.
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I loved that she had her hair done.
I think you rather understated the stressful nature
of your trip when I was concerned about your absence
from our site.
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A lovely story - the same thing happened to both of my parents....
Many years ago, my dad was very poorly and was about to be readmitted to hospital, which he hated. He died in the night before he was to go in.... we felt it was from choice, but never knew how...
then my mum, like your friend, was dying in a lovely nursing home, but held on until all her children had visited her. She knew she was slipping away, and was happy about it - her time had come. Nature - however it works - is a wonderful thing.
Many years ago, my dad was very poorly and was about to be readmitted to hospital, which he hated. He died in the night before he was to go in.... we felt it was from choice, but never knew how...
then my mum, like your friend, was dying in a lovely nursing home, but held on until all her children had visited her. She knew she was slipping away, and was happy about it - her time had come. Nature - however it works - is a wonderful thing.
Very sad. My condolences
My MIL was the same. kept telling us we shouldnt keep visiting every night whilst she was in hospital and after a week she insisted we didnt come the following night as we were wearing ourselves out. An hour after we got home that night, was the phonecall to say she has passed away peacefully. It was as if she did it for us as well as herself. She kept telling us she had had enough of life. x
My MIL was the same. kept telling us we shouldnt keep visiting every night whilst she was in hospital and after a week she insisted we didnt come the following night as we were wearing ourselves out. An hour after we got home that night, was the phonecall to say she has passed away peacefully. It was as if she did it for us as well as herself. She kept telling us she had had enough of life. x
My mother decided I think. She arranged for the priest to visit (which we didnt know about till later). When I went to see her I could see she was unwell and said I would call the doctor. She replied Dont, I will be alright tomorrow. I did call the doctor but he was too late and she was already dead when he arrived. She knew.
The body doesnt decide "its time to go" quite like that. the body deteriorates until it can support life no longer, then it stops working and we die, however, if the dying person knows that someone is visiting they will sometimes hang on, (adrenalin maybe) once that person has had her wish to see that person, he/she will relax and then pass away. Well that is how I see it.
