I wasn't saying that other species were devoid of curiosity, but curiosity can only get you so far. And, like it or not, the distances certainly are prohibitive, at least if you are planning a return trip anyway. As I pointed out, even a journey from the nearest, even remotely plausible, habitable planet would mean a round trip of a minimum of 46 years from the perspective of the inhabitants or that planet. Realistically, those who are leaving would never be coming back, which in itself will surely place severe constraints on how near these planets would have to be before we could expect them to visit us. I think even if you were optimistic about it then you're looking at an intelligent species capable of interstellar flight having to be no more than 100 light years away to consider the possibility of their visiting. And I'm probably being generous with that figure.
And like I said, almost certainly they'd have little idea of what to expect when they got here, so even supposing the trip were feasible then it might not even be taken. I don't think that, despite your claim to the contrary, you really appreciate how vast and empty space really is. I don't think anyone does, really. If the Moon were the size of a pixel and you scrolled across the Solar System at the usual rate of scrolling webpages, then ignoring Relativistic effects it would still take over half an hour to get from the Sun to Pluto*. And that's barely a hair's breadth by cosmic standards.
I'd like to think that there is alien life out there, and that some day we'll contact it. But it's seriously unlikely to happen in my lifetime, if ever. I won't say "never", but you may as well be realistic about this.
*you can test this, at
http://joshworth.com/dev/pixelspace/pixelspace_solarsystem.html