Although I don't subscribe to the dubious distinction of 'atheist' (a pejorative term derived by the same who contrived their own specific form of theistic belief) I never subscribed to the latter either in spite of having been raised in a household and environment where the existence and prescribed nature of their alleged god was presumed and never questioned. I was told by them that it was my own mind that I should bring into question when confronted with my own disbelief. It was in the process of questioning and seeking to understand my own mind that I reached the conclusion that the beliefs I was expected to regurgitate were not based in reality. Although I did possess some appreciation for the value of knowing right from wrong and acting accordingly, in spite of having been told I should not trust my own 'depraved' mind to make such determinations, it was that same distrust that was instilled in me that lead me to question whether said 'depravity' ended in my own mind or was in fact no less endemic in the beliefs I was instructed to adopt for myself.
When it came to determining right from wrong, I did not find satisfaction in simply following 'the rules' supposedly dictated to humanity by an alleged divine arbiter. Instead of simply following blindly what I had been told I sought to understand the reasons underpinning what made certain things right and others wrong. As my reasoning abilities and understanding improved I found doing what was right a joy rather than a duty, a reward that accompanied my efforts to do what was right rather than seek an unearned reward beyond the grave.
I do not accept contempt for humanity and self-loathing as the inspiration for that which makes us better human beings. My inspiration comes from the benefits that are derived through developing the ability to reason, a better understanding of what I can and should do to justify my existence and right to claim the title of a worthy human being.
With that I'll leave it to you to decide for yourself if labeling me as an 'atheist' is 'friendly' enough.