Does the bible say anything about...

[FEELINLOST]

your partner straying into the company of another female and discussing your relationship problems with her?

My partner and I have had many problems in our relationship but always want to work at it and soon to be getting married this year......but recently we had a big blow up and he went out to meet another female & apparently she sent him some pictures of herself!!!
My partner realises he wants to still be with me but he
still keeps the photos which he thinks I don't know about!

Do I forigive and forget????
Anyone with some good christian advice please?
Thank you

[WaldoMcFroog]

According to Matthew 5:27-28, he's an adulterer.

27 You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Hope that useful Christian advice helps.

[FEELINLOST]

Thank you WaldoMcFroog - this does help but could you give any advice on what I should do - I am rather lost & don't know what to do for the bes?t!

I have fustration & anger in my heart & if i bring this up I'm affraid I will cause a bad argument........

[FEELINLOST]

Thank you very much - I have taken your comments on board & will find a way at the right time to approach him.

The only fear I have is that he will bring up my past as I have hurt my partner in many ways too - so he will hold me to them!

This is what are problems have been about as he state that I still continue to hurt him and not show him love & even though I have acknowledged my faults he still brings it up!

When he tells me how I've hurt him - I feel that he is taking it so personally even though I tell him I didn't do it intentionally !!!!

[Octavius]

FL, is this the partner that your mother would never accept?
How did you get on with that?

[FEELINLOST]

Hi Octavius yes you are right. In regards to that we are fine as we made a united front to my mother & she knows where she stands now!

I have been the cause of much of our long-term & recent blow ups (which I constantly admit too) but feel recently we are not moving forward!
I'm still getting on with him despite my discovery of the female acqaintance & photos!

[naomi24]

FEELINLOST, I can't believe you're still with this man and still contemplating marrying him after all the problems you've had and all the advice you've been given here in the past. I can't give you Christian advice, but I can give you good advice which is the same advice that everyone has given you previously. Dump him and start living life. You might not think so now, but there really are plenty of fish in the sea - and you do have a choice. Don't settle for a life of misery. You're worth more than that.

[Theland1]

Thank God, (or your lucky stars, depending on your perspective), that these issues are now rather than later, and go get somebody without a roving eye.
Ditto Naomi.

[Octavius]

FL, I'm sorry but I have to agree too. I can't see much future in this relationship, even less a happy one. You sound so brow beaten and defeated. Life and relationships should be about facing challenges and working hard but with the love, support and rewards that outweight the challenges.

You sound like you are getting all the downs, without many of the ups. Even a priest would probably wonder whether you were both ready for the sacrament of marriage.

[keyplus90]

FL- If I am not wrong one of you was Muslim and other Christian and you had problems in the beginning. You see people with different faiths can get along well only if they completely give up their faith and accept the other's or completely give up each other. I know your problem (now) has nothing like that but things are always inter related.

[FEELINLOST]

Thank you for your replys - I just don't know what to do for the best...........to keyplus90 we are both catholic-christians.

[Octavius]

Well perhaps for a start you could ask him (in a non-confrontational way) to talk about the friend and the photo and take it from there and see how he feels about you and you, him.

Still no need to be a doormat though, act with gumption and conviction and set the rules straight before considerig going ahead with any marriage.