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I Don’t Know What To Do.
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If you saw my last post, I was able to make it to the girls basketball team. The problem is, I BARELY know how to play. The entire time I was in basketball practice I just wanted to go home.
My teammates were kind to me, but some of them are not taking it serious at all. Half of them are just playing around and then the other half are extremely serious about basketball. I feel so stuck between the two. I’m not playing around when it comes to basketball, but I’m not as determined about it as the other girls are.
The both times I came out of basketball practice, I felt unhappy. I didn’t feel any kind of satisfaction, I just wanted to go home.
My heart tells me to leave basketball because it’s not making me happy and it makes me feel miserable. But my mind keeps telling me that if I quit I’ll be a loser, I give up easily, and that I’ll regret it.
I don’t know what to do…
My teammates were kind to me, but some of them are not taking it serious at all. Half of them are just playing around and then the other half are extremely serious about basketball. I feel so stuck between the two. I’m not playing around when it comes to basketball, but I’m not as determined about it as the other girls are.
The both times I came out of basketball practice, I felt unhappy. I didn’t feel any kind of satisfaction, I just wanted to go home.
My heart tells me to leave basketball because it’s not making me happy and it makes me feel miserable. But my mind keeps telling me that if I quit I’ll be a loser, I give up easily, and that I’ll regret it.
I don’t know what to do…
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Give it up. Sport is supposed to be fun, if it isn't, find something that is. Trying something and finding you don't like it does not make you a failure. But sticking with something because of a misplaced notion of failure will make you miserable. Put your energy elsewhere, you'll be glad you did.
23:52 Thu 01st Dec 2022
Quitting because you're not happy does not make you a loser.
Have you (or are you able to) discussed this with any of the other players ? Either the serious or the fun bunch - which ones would you want to join, how do the two types get on with each other (the mixture sounds a bit of a recipe for disaster to me, and this dichotomy could subconsciously be the cause of your unhappiness)
Have you (or are you able to) discussed this with any of the other players ? Either the serious or the fun bunch - which ones would you want to join, how do the two types get on with each other (the mixture sounds a bit of a recipe for disaster to me, and this dichotomy could subconsciously be the cause of your unhappiness)
It sounds like you are feeling unsure about your commitment to the basketball team. It's natural to feel unsure or uncomfortable when you are starting something new, especially if you don't have a lot of experience with it. However, it's important to remember that it takes time to learn and improve at a new activity, and that it's okay to make mistakes or feel frustrated along the way.
If you are feeling unhappy and unfulfilled by your participation in the basketball team, it may be worth considering whether this is the right activity for you. It's important to pursue activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and if basketball is not doing that for you, it may be best to step back and explore other options.
On the other hand, if you are committed to giving basketball a fair chance, it may be helpful to talk to your coach or a trusted teammate about your concerns. They may be able to offer advice or support to help you improve and enjoy your time on the team. It may also be helpful to set some specific goals for yourself, such as learning a new skill or improving your fitness, to help you stay motivated and focused. Ultimately, the decision is up to you, and it's important to do what feels right for you.
If you are feeling unhappy and unfulfilled by your participation in the basketball team, it may be worth considering whether this is the right activity for you. It's important to pursue activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and if basketball is not doing that for you, it may be best to step back and explore other options.
On the other hand, if you are committed to giving basketball a fair chance, it may be helpful to talk to your coach or a trusted teammate about your concerns. They may be able to offer advice or support to help you improve and enjoy your time on the team. It may also be helpful to set some specific goals for yourself, such as learning a new skill or improving your fitness, to help you stay motivated and focused. Ultimately, the decision is up to you, and it's important to do what feels right for you.
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