msn messenger help

[tweetiebirdy]

hi,hoping someone can help us,my teenage son has suddenly become very secretative about who he is talking to on msn,i have gone into his chat logs,but he has deleted them,i have even restored the comp but cant find what is going on.we are very worried,can anyone help me find these chat logs, as my husband and i are not very good on comps.we have tried talking to him,but he wont tell us what is going on, he says nothing is, but i know our son,its just not like him,he is normally open and honest,please help

[Ethel]

As he knows more about computers than you, he has the upper hand with this one. My guess is you don't even know his MSN user name - he uses an alternative to the one he gives you.

Restoring the pc was the worst possible thing as it wiped all histories. If he is not keeping the chat log history and deleting all temporary files and history it will be very difficult for you to get any information.

How old is he?

[weeal]

You havent said what age he is but maybe he is just talking to girls and doesnt want to tell you, it could all be quite innocent, although if I was a parent I would probably feel the same way you do.
Spying on him might help you but will kill the trust if he found out.
If he is deleting the chat history Im not sure there is another way to find out. MSN is quite secure and contacts appear only as numbers I think in the history on the PC.
Hopefully you will get the answer on here today from someone more PC literate, if thats the route you want to take.
Good luck
Try not to worry to much

[tweetiebirdy]

hi,thanks for your replies,he is is 14

[weeal]

I think boys are just naturally secretive around that age, especially if talking to girls, he may be embarassed and doesnt want you asking 101 questions etc.
The internet however is a scary place and I dont know what parents can do when their children are much more knowledgable than them in that respect.
Personally, I would want to have much more control over his computer use than 'he' has, he is still young.

[ACtheTROLL]

I think boys are also secretive when they are up to something.

probably it's nothing ... but possibly it is.

as to what you can do .... that's a little harder.
at 14 it could be anything (probably it is just girls)
but if he's anything like I was - he's a bag of unsocial hormones looking for release .... in privacy

I hated talking to adults ... I hated it more when they tried to quiz me .... and I hated it even more when they took no interest in what I was doing.

you know your son ...
if he's trustworthy ... trust him .... if he's getting a little wild ...
insist he only surfs for broken periods of time (controled by you .... and kept random)

you could use an unerase prog (might .... might not work)
a keylogger .....http://www.actualkeylogger.com/

but remember ... you're going to have to explain what you've done at some point