What Makes A Person Want To Ask Someone Out?

[Ceci_Crow]

You don't have to, but if you can, please be detailed and or specific.
Why do people ask each other out in high school?

[boxtops]

Duplicate post here http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Society-and-Culture/Question1315152.html

You ask people out because you want to get to know them better.

Is this homework?

[jomifl]

They don't in an all boys high school..

[Prudie]

Possibly because that's when puberty really kicks in. What kind of answers are you expecting to these 2 questions?

[Cloverjo]

Why don't you ask your high school friends?

[emmie]

do we have high schools here,

[Tilly2]

I went to something called a High School.

[emmie]

i went to a secondary modern, perhaps i am out of touch.

[Ceci_Crow]

Sorry if this seems like a duplicate. It's just that two people have asked me out in high school, and I'm not sure what I should do. I don't really stand out, and so I'm curious as to why they wanted to ask me out. I honestly don't really believe that high school relationships are even serious, but I have heard about teachers who've met their loved one at during their high school lives. Bottom-line, I'm not sure if they're serious or not serious (therefore, the reason of me asking these questions in order to find out some possible reasons for their motives), and I want to have some advice on what to do. Also, it'd really be nice if me and those people can just be friends because, although I believe most high school relationships aren't serious, I just dislike having to show 'emotion' (ex. faking that I care deeply), and having to give 'contact and touching' (ex. hugs, arms around shoulder or waist) for an insincere relationship (I'm not against all that hugging and touching - I just dislike the fake drama that some people do). To me, I believe that people want relationships because they just want someone to hang out with (or to create drama), but that's all I know. Lastly, I should probably just tell them face-to-face that we should just be friends, but I really want to hear advice and thoughts from other people who know more than I do - hence, the reason I am here asking this question.

[Ceci_Crow]

@Prudie - :/. At first, I was hoping for, really, reasons on asking someone out.

But, I guess I should've just made my full point in one post/question. I'm really just looking for advice on what I should do.

[andres]

I think your mother is probably the best person to give you the advice you are looking for .

[Prudie]

There is no rule, some are serious, most are not. Are these fellow students? Do you speak/hang out with them already?

[askyourgran]

It seems to be a standard thing to do at co-ed schools. Girls who have permanent boyfriends are viewed as cool, having someone of the opposite sex instead of an ordinary everyday girlfriend/boyfriend makes them appear grown-up. If you like the person who is asking you out - why not? It is probably the first learning curve towards future dates, a testing time of their ability to attract someone, so you may learn something from that too. Be quite sure to say no to anything you do not wish to get involved in with this person. Don't follow the herd. Just because some are rumoured to be going further than a friendly kiss doesn't mean that you have to. I used to go to an all girls school so no chance there, but at the Youth Club I had a permananet boyfriend, he met me from school sometimes and we hung around together, we were just good friends until our school days ended.
you don't have to follow suit.
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[askyourgran]

^^Don't know how that last sentence got there.

[Ceci_Crow]

@Prudie - Yes, they're fellow students.

With one, he doesn't seem to be around in the school anymore :/. We shared an interest in videogames, and so we chatted on there - maybe one of the reasons he asked me out? (I really don't know).

With the other, yes, we speak. He tried to create conversation with me around the beginning of the school year. Me, although not very good with conversations, indeed, spoke with him back. This continued, although we had little time together because of different schedules, to now and will likely continue - especially because of Valentine's Day. :/.

[Cloverjo]

I don't know if it's different nowadays from when I was young (about 30 years ago) but if someone "asked you out" he was asking you to be his girlfriend, not necessarily to go on a date. If you liked/fancied someone, you'd let mutual friends know and eventually one would ask the other out.
If these people are asking you to go to the movies or whatever and you like them, then enjoy their company and the experiences. They obviously like you, which is why they asked.

[pixie373]

I think you're reading too much into it. They are attracted to you and would like to spend some time with you. It is entirely up to you if you want to accept or not.

[pastafreak]

I think you are analysing things way too much. Going out,or asking someone out-should be fun. You ask another person out because you enjoy their company, and/or are attracted to them. If there is attraction,the arms around each other part happens naturally. Try it...you'll probably enjoy it.

[Tilly2]

'With the other, yes, we speak. He tried to create conversation with me around the beginning of the school year. Me, although not very good with conversations, indeed, spoke with him back. '

For heavens sake, relax!

[Ceci_Crow]

XD. All of you are probably right - I'm thinking too much on this. Just one more thing though - why would someone confess to you even though they don't really know much about you? Is it because of looks? (Probably is, but I like I said, I don't stand out much. I'm probably not that good-looking). :p