cyprus

[tradey]

hi all for the last 9yrs weve been going to protaras and weve got very friendy with a family over there,which are from cyprus,my hubby helps him out over here selling villas,well the other day we got a call to say would we be interested in moving over there to live, he wants my hubby to help him with the buisness,we have 3 children 22yrs 18yrs and a little 3yr old,we love going there but what do you think about moving over there to live.weve been thinking about it for a while but our 18yr old doesnt want to go and i dont want to leave her,what would you do please help xx

[janetsflower]

You have to consider whether you could make it on your own out there if something went wrong with the relationship between your husband and his friend because its a big step to take if you are relying on him. These things don;t always work. Having said that, we are british but lived in cyprus for three years and would go back again at the drop of a hat. As you surely know its a beautiful country that has, in many ways, a lot more going for it than this one does. Only you know your 18 year old well enough to know wht makes her not want to go, is it a genuine dislike of cyprus or is it just a current boyfreind she doesn't want to leave behind. Only you can weigh that up. Personally I wouldn't consider leaving an 18 year old behind becuase although strictly speaking she is an adult she prbably hasn;'t gt the maturity and life expereince to cope on her own just yet. Its a tough decision and i wish you all the best in reaching it

[naz_nomad]

2 options ..


1. try it
2. go to your grave saying, ''what if''.


tell your 18 y.o. to get a life ...

[tradey]

thanks for your answers,my daughter was all for going last year but a lad she went to school with put her off by saying youll miss all your friends,hes back over here now.my hubbies saying whats over here for us,its better for our 3yr old.half of me wants too but the other half doesnt,im very very close to my mum and brother and to be truthful i dont think i could leave them,its not as if its 2hrs away like spain oh god we dont know what to do.so you lived there for 3yrs and you would go back.weve been talking and thought of going for a few month and see how it goes cheers for your advice xx

[perky72]

If you're really undecided, have you considered just going for say 3 or 6 months to see how things go? I'm sure you could rent a place for that amount of time whilst you gave the whole 'living in Cyprus' a try? In assuming you own your own home, you could always rent this out to a professional couple for the same amount of time you rent in Cyprus. That way you won't end up homeless should you decide it's not for you.
I've no doubt it will have an effect on your 18 yo but if you put your life plans on hold for them, before you know it they are off doing there own thing without too much consideration for you!!
I hope you make the right decision for yourself and your family.

J x

[tradey]

perky72 your dead right about them going off and doing their own thing,its just a big step to take,its hard,what were going to do id write down the prose and cons and see if that helps us make our minds up.yep we would do that with the house,theres no way i could just sell up and move we have to be really sure first and go over and try it. thankyou for your advice