wy should i be made to go on holiday

[bikelover]

me and my family have been going on holiday to the same place for the last 13years... i have gone each year.
this year i dont want to go, i am in a really serious relationship with my girlfriend, and i couldnt bare to leave her. i hate being apart from her. my family has always gone for 2weeks, but this year 3weeks are booked. i said absolutley no to 3 weeks. 2weeks was still a no unless she could come, and 1 week i said yes to, so long as i had a ferry ticket and i could find my way home...im being made to come...but the thing is, im going to be 18...an adult and i should be allowed to make my own decissions. my mum says to me 'do you stop to consider my feelings'...grrrrr:@:@
what do you think, im in love...deeply and i would rather be with her than away on holiday...whjat should i do to stay home? HELP

[bikelover]

my parents are adamint that she cannot come, they are such annoying parents. me and my other half have a holiday booked around the same time and i need to save money. im going to be purchasing a new motorbike in 2months or so and will be broke by the time the holiday comes around. so whats the point in going without money...
i wish my parents where like you then coz i rli dont want to go.

[bikelover]

suppose so but we have been for last 13years and we have done everything there is to do...i dont want to go and i just need something that will help me stay here

[Mosaic]

Thing is, you can do whatever you like and go to jail for it after 18. But what you can't do is get financial support from parents who are using that as the last resort to keep you as their baby. Your parents are greatly at fault. Do you need them for food and shelter? If so, you need to state the position calmly, and abide by their decisions, otherwise you are up the creek without a paddle. Have you given them reason not to trust you? If not, remind them them that you have been trustworthy. Does your gf love ylou as much? In which case she will wait for you to come back from hols and be all a-fire to carry on where you left off.
Of course, if she was very naughty and willful and over 18, she might take a tent and camp near your folks holiday home......

[redcrx]

hey bikelover, did you find a job? a new bike, a holiday, things must have changed.

why pass up chance of free holiday? where are they going

[mollykins]

my best friend's parents said they won't take him on holiday after he's 15 as its too expensive, but he will be staying with his dad so thats different.

[mikey0118]

Maybe your parents don't want to leave you at home by yourself. Yes, you're going to be an adult, but at least by being with them, they know you can't trash their home.

[bikelover]

my parents know that they can trust me with their home and possesions as ive shown i can provide and look after myself. nearly every single night, i sleep at my girlfriends, and its fine, they are fine with that. the only thing is, they are so possesive about me comming on holiday. earlier today, i was told that i have to come for atleast a week and i asked how could i get home, and they said sat nav. i havnt got one for my motorbike so i was told they would lend me theirs. should i go??? i hate being apart from her:S
im passing up the chance of a free holiday as ive done it all before...nothing new there, same old people etc...i wana go on holiday with my g.f instead...much better:D

[sanndwich]

do they believe family always comes first

[bikelover]

yes they do and i rli hate it...i just wana stay home with her:D

[1955]

As you say you are almost 18 and that is considered to be an adult. Can you not stay home with relatives or even at your GF's house. I don't think you should be forced to go if you don't want to.

[Jessica123]

Bikelover - go for the week then come home by yourself. Don't sulk while you're there, try to enjoy it. That way you show you are adult enough to compromise and negotiate. And as long as you find your way home successfully you've proved how grown up you are. But if all else fails go with them - next year they won't be able to dictate to you and remember - there'll be times in the future that you and GF will have to be apart - if you can't hack it now there's not a lot of hope for your relationship.

[ganesh]

..er ..just say you're not going on holiday with them any more. You're 18, I can't see the problem.
Yes,you may seem a bit ungrateful but you're an adult now,and there are'nt many 18 year olds that still want to go on holiday with their parents.Try and reason with them and tell them you love them but the time has come to grow up.

[dothawkes31]

Blimey, i thought times had changed, i spent my 18th in a bar on Torremolinos and then on the beach with my mates and several hotel waiters. that was in 1973!

[dothawkes31]

actually i was with the hotel desk clerk i stand corrected.

[bikelover]

they just dont get it...all they say when i tell them i dont wana come on holiday is that my g.f has me under the thumb and im doing what she tells me. they couldnt be more wrong, im not under the thumb, if anything i dominate the relationship lol. ut seriously, im not. and being 18 i should be able to do what i like for a change and i am allowed to stay at my g.f coz i always do anyway. it just gets to me so much when they dont just listen to my view. the other day, my dad sais if i dont wana come then thats fine althou ill be missing out, but i know i wont coz we have done everything there already:L and mum says dont you stop to think about how i feel. why cant they just get over it, ill be 18, and engaged by then:D

[cherrychapstick]

get a JOB then you will have to stay at home as you won't get time off to go!!!!!

[Bobbisox]

I am beginning to wonder about this poster ?