Obtaining Probate

[237SJ]

This isn`t a technical question. My Mum died on 30th March and I am on the verge of obtaining probate. I just thought that this was just another formaility that I have to go through but now that I am almost in a position where her house is mine and not hers I feel a little bit emotional. I feel that obtaining probate is very final and like drawing a line under her - she is done and dusted. I spoke to my best friend about this tonight but she never felt that about her Mum because they were not close. It`s a strange feeling that I have - like my Mum is a long way in the past now. Does anyone else feel like this about their parent(s)?

[Retrochic]

My father died 14 years ago but I still feel he's around, certainly not in the dim distant past. Every time you think of a memory does she not still feel 'here'?

[Mamyalynne]

Each landmark or date that passes has some impact on how you feel, but that is only temporary - your memories are forever.

[Canary42]

I too found it a watershed certainly, but as Executor got so involved with actioning her wishes that her memory remained close.

I feel sure you'll overcome it.

[tonyav]

Certainly do, 237SJ. My mom died in 1998 and I think about her most days.

[237SJ]

When my Mum`s breast cancer came back in her bones I knew that time was limited. I worried about whether she would suffer, what I would do with her cat. how I would manage looking after her while working. I got through all of that (God knows how) and I knew it would take about 6 months to obtain probate. Now that I have almost obtained it, it just seems to weird to almost be at the end of the road. It is like Mum is history now.

[tonyav]

Your mom will never be history in your heart and mind, 237SJ.

[237SJ]

Thanks Tony

[Mamyalynne]

I know what you mean , you spend so long dealing with one thing after another, then............now what?

Mum brought you up with love so you could live your life, and that's what we have to do.

Take care.

[237SJ]

Thanks Mamya (and everyone else) Most days I am OK but sometimes I really struggle. I guess it is because it is still early days.