Update from yesterday

[jibjab]

As i told you yesterday, my girlfriend rang me up (after dumping me), late at night saying she misses me etc and asking if id met anyone else yet. Tehn on ssunday was very off with me and told me to leave her alone and even denied ringing me!!!

Anyway, after agreeing not to contact eachtoher, i woke up this morning to find ANOTHER missed call from her on my mobile at 1.30am!!!! she works until 11pm, but why does she keep ringing and texting if as she said on sunday, she doesnt want any contact????

[redcrx]

Just ignore her. Youll only get the same abuse you did when you called her last time. Leave her be for a while. If she wants you back she'll stop the games and tell you outright.

I know you dont want to hear it but move on!

[turboped]

Just keep away. Forget it. Move on. This will never come to any good anyway. I say that from experience. When a relationship is right you get no games and no messing about. Build your own confidence and self esteem, worry about yourself your health and well being, be polite helpful, friendly and conscientious to everyone you know, have known and are going to know, work hard - play hard, everything else will fall into place.

[kazzianne]

jibjab - what the hell do you want us lot to say to you??? We have all said to forget her move on - she is playing a silly game.But you just wont listen to us!

Tell you what - just get another SIM card for your mobile fone - problem solved.

[4getmenot]

I think you're just gonna make your mind own up by the end of the day. You're letting her mess you about. and as redcyx said she'll give you the same hassle meaning she'll just say she didnt call. Personaly I think you are loving her doing this. Or you wouldnt keep going on about it, her or any of your other exes. You seem to me like someone who lives very much in the past. If you want us to say she keeps doing this because she still loves you it aint gonna happen. She is just lonely and knows you fall for it everytime and will ring her back.

[4getmenot]

and as you said in other posts she's made it clear to you she going with every tom, dick and harry so she is majorly just trying to get a reaction so dont give her one.

[Aliceband]

Why dont you 2 just meet up for a coffee. Talk and decide what you BOTH want.

Texting causes problems (speaks from experience!).

You both obviously want to get back together. So just do it.

[Amara]

I believe she is doing this because she knows she can - she knows how to push all your buttons right? She is playing you like a fiddle at the moment and you are allowing her to do it. I always try to see the good in everyone and remain non judgmental, but you have posted a lot of stuff about this so it is obviously affecting you really badly. You must try to move past this or this will affect you badly long term, it will have an impact on future relationships and you do not want that to happen. Take a LONG hard look deep down inside yourself and ask yourself if this is what you really want in your life? If you choose happiness then get out there and grab life with both hands - there is so much out there to enjoy. Everyone has difficult relationships in their life, it is part of growing and growing up. Be strong and move on, don't look back, as someone said on here the other day "there is no future in the past" - Bright blessings - Amara xx

[4getmenot]

Are you sure because one day you say this is it I don�t want to know anymore, then the next you�re saying well I rang her back and she said she didn�t ring. Then you say she�s moved on to every other bloke, then you�re saying you want to meet up. If I�d split up with someone I would still speak to them but if they went with others and continued to rub it in my face well they can kiss goodbye to any reconciliation. You�re not ok because you�re desperate for our advice, Most of us have said in so many words leave it and if and when she grows up she will want to talk to you and sort things. Try and stick to it, I know it�s hard but if you delete her number from your mobile you really won�t have the temptation. I�m not have a go, I�m sure every single one of us has gone through this, hating the ex one minute then making up excuses for them the next. But also every one of us has probably learned from our mistakes.

[kazzianne]

if you are doing so well then why do you post at least one of two questions about her every day?? Either ring her up and ask her to get back together with you,or tell her you want to move on,delete her number and get a new SIM card.But please do one or the other - before we all go mad!! lol

[undercovers]

she doesn't want you - but she is lonely with out you (if that makes sense) and doesn't want you to move on before she does e.g. when she get with a new boy she will stop phoning you and will be telling everyone how you can't get over her... she is just worrying about her own feelings and is not concerned about yours... MOVE ON and have some fun, go on some dates find a new gf if thats what you want and ignore her , though if you do get another gf i bet she will go all guns to try and get you back just to dump you again a few months later.

forget about her and move on

[Miss Zippy]

Sorry jibjab but I've lost any sympathy I might have had for you. Get some dignity and self respect and just ignore the attention seeking nutter.

[teag1rl]

someone might have already siad this, I'm not sure I can be bothered to read through every post carefully enough. But has she been on the vino when she rings you up in the middle of the night?? We all get a bit nostalgic when we've been on the lash and the ex is obvously first choice for a stupid o'clock phone call! I know because unless they're deleted I do it myself.

[Rubyrose]

She is keeping you hanging and you need to put a stop to it. Its good that you missed her call. Don't return the call. Just leave it. I'd ignore her. If she wants you badly enough then she knows where you are and you don't want to hear the same old crap over the phone. Time to move on hun.

[polly1]

i havent read every one of these post in depth enough but i think most of them are pretty much right on - get rid of her, forget her and move on. there are people out there who will make you feel better about yourself - she knows how you feel about her and is being selfish and cruel by keeping you hanging on - she's not worth the hassle. Change your number.

[malaise]

jibjab, no matter how many times you ask, the answer will be the same. She's fu**ing with you. Ignore her. Move on. End of story.

[bellasasha]

jibjab....please for the love of god....CHANGE YOUR MOBY NUMBER!!!!!

there is nothing else we can say to you....buy a new sim card for a tenner...problem solved!!!!

[helliebobs]

I agree- jibjab there's no more advice we can give you!!

Just move on!!