why do people cheat?

[wonderwoman1]

i know i'll get some silly answers but i just wanted to know why people cheat? i have never cheated on anyone but it has been done to me many times...i just cant understand why people want to cause someone they are supposed to love such pain and hurt?

i'm sorry its a depressing subject but i was just wanting opinions

thank you

[theNooooo]

It�s the thrill of the chase. I have a girl but I have cheated on her and will continue to do so. I live by the saying that "what they don�t know wont hurt them" that is true. She is none the wiser and she is very happy. Where is the problem in that?

[caz21]

I think i cheated on a boyfriend when i was young because i could, i knew he would never find out and because i didnt really love him at all looking back!

BUT, it taught me a lot about life and love and i know securely in my soul that i would never ever cheat again!

(he never found out but the guilt ate me up inside)

[inej]

Hi wonderwoman1 when i used to cheat it was because it gave my ego a boost that i could get someone else. But now i am settled i realised how much hurt it caused the guys i was with. lol

[andy-hughes]

Cheating is a matter of perspective - as the previous rresponses indicate. If you could never see yourself cheating, then you won't, other people do so, either in the belief that ignorance is bliss, as the Nooooo believes, or simply because it makes them feel attractive. It's impossible to explain such a behaviour to someone who does not share it, but it appears that you are extremely unlucky in your choice of partners.

[wonderwoman1]

thanks guys for your posts, was just having a day of wondering!!!! thinking back on things!! and i just didnt understand the whole concept.

thenooo there is nothing wrong with your opinion and i dont have a problem with it at all, i was just asking the question.thanks for your honesty.

xx

[funkymoped]

forbidden fruit ! ive never been there, but can imagine how it must be a boost to the system.

[undercovers]

i don't think people go out of their way to cheat and hurt their partner (or even risk it) but when a situation occurs that puts them in a position to have an affair they are unable to say no, who knows why, temptation maybe ... i think that genetics has something to do with it - as a more sucessful animal would be the one that had a partner for security but also spread their genetic code, that goes for men and women.

[unruliejulie]

I think there are two types of cheaters, ones who are genuinly stuck in a miserable, loveless marriage and crave someone to love and love them and the others who are just in it for the sex! I don't think the former ever set out to hurt anyone, just happens, the otheres, well, they are ******!

[Lonnie]

You've got some good answers above, but in the end, it comes down to two things, willpower, and because they can, regardless of whatever the home situation is at the time.

Quite simply though, if you value what you've got, you don't,